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Dan Savage Thanks Straight Allies For Gay Marriage Support

Dan Savage, creator of the It Gets Better campaign, launched a new website to thank straight allies of the LGBT community for supporting marriage equality according to Gay Star News.

"Last week on my blog, I floated the idea of having a big party for all the straight people who came through for us in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State," Savage wrote. "But all those straight people wouldn't fit in a single ballroom. But we can fit them on a single Tumblr page."

And so began, "Straight Up Thanks," a photo site dedicated to all the straight allies who supported equal marriage rights in the elections.

The 2012 elections were historic for the LGBT community in many ways, and marriage equality was certainly a major victory particularly in Maine, Maryland, and Washington.

According to an ABC News-Washington Post poll, 51 percent of all Americans support gay marriage. Though some still fight on against gay marriage, this the fifth poll since March of 2011 that says a majority of Americans support marriage equality.

Savage, for one, feels optimistic that the tide won't reverse the other way anytime soon, especially since the LGBT community has such strong allies.

"I know so many straight people in Washington State, where I live, who worked unbelievably hard on the campaign to win marriage equality for their gay and lesbian friends, family members, and neighbors. I know straight people in all four states who voted, gave money, worked phone banks, and knocked on doors -- all in an effort to make it possible for same-sex couples to marry."

And for that he says, Thank You.

The Huffington Post.


below the cut is the post from savage love, entitled "Thank a Breeder Day"....obviously, given the nature of savage love, the latter sections are nsfw:



Reading you over the years has absolutely changed my mind on gay marriage. I wanted to let you know that. I also live in Maryland, and, as you know, we voted last week to allow same-sex couples to legally marry. I was excited that I got to vote for marriage equality in my home state, Dan-even I agree that it's fucked up that people get to vote on the civil rights of LGBT people at all. Thanks for all your writing over the years-it's really made a difference in my love and sex life. And congrats to you and all gay people in the United States for the big wins last week in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State.

Just Some Straight Guy


There's something I want to say about the votes—and about the voters—in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State. But first I want to say this to all my fellow queers: We built this. The breakthroughs we saw last week, which included the election of the first openly gay person to the United States Senate (Wisconsin's Tammy Baldwin), we made that. LGBT people came out, fought back, and changed the world. We have a fuck of a lot left to do—repeal DOMA, pass ENDA, unfinished business with DADT (trans people are still barred from serving), defending the rights of queers around the world—but LGBT people have made tremendous progress since Stonewall. It has gotten better for us because we came out and fought to make it better. We demanded better.

Now here is what I want to say to straight people: Thank you.

I know so many straight people in Washington State, where I live, who worked unbelievably hard on the campaign to win marriage equality for their gay and lesbian friends, family members, and neighbors. I know straight people in all four states who voted, gave money, worked phone banks, and knocked on doors—all in an effort to make it possible for same-sex couples to marry.

Gays and lesbians are a tiny percentage of the population. And while we laid the groundwork for the breakthroughs we saw last week in Maine, Maryland, Washington, and Minnesota—we built this—we didn't build it on our own. The majorities in the state legislatures in Maine, Maryland, and Washington that voted to make same-sex marriage legal? Straight. The governors who signed laws making same-sex marriage legal? Straight. The overwhelming majority of people who voted in favor of marriage equality in all three states after anti-gay bigots forced public votes on our civil rights? Straight. The majority that voted against writing anti-gay bigotry into Minnesota's state constitution? Straight. And the president who took a huge political risk and came out for marriage equality before his reelection campaign? Straight. It has gotten better for us—better, not perfect—but it hasn't gotten better for us in a vacuum. It's gotten better for us because straight people have gotten better about us.

Rights are rights. They shouldn't be put up for a vote. And we shouldn't have to say "thank you" when they're recognized. The sad fact is that we have had to fight for our rights. But here's the happy fact: We didn't have to fight this one alone. Thousands and thousands of straight people stood with us and fought for us. We had help. And that's what we should thank the straight people for. Not for granting us our rights—rights are rights are rights—but for joining our fight.

Last week on my blog, I floated the idea of having a big party for all the straight people who came through for us in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State. But all those straight people wouldn't fit in a single ballroom. But we can fit them on a single Tumblr page. Queers? If you know a straight person in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, or Washington—if you know a straight in any state or the District of Columbia—who donated money, phone-banked, went door-to-door, or took a political risk on our behalf, take your picture with that straight person, write a few words about what they did, and post it to www.straightupthanks.tumblr.com.

We saw a huge breakthrough in the struggle for LGBT equality last week. And it wouldn't have happened without the help of so many righteous, kick-ass straight people. I'll bet every queer person reading this knows a straight person who they should thank. I certainly do. Thank them in a public way: Go to www. straightupthanks.tumblr.com, click "submit a post," share a photo, and thank a straight ally.

Because we literally couldn't have done it without them.
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mollywobbles867 17th-Nov-2012 04:01 am (UTC)
Best. Subject. Title. Ever.
yeats 17th-Nov-2012 05:40 am (UTC)
<3 ;)
otana 17th-Nov-2012 04:10 am (UTC)
Really? Really?

Don't get me wrong, I love my straight friends who stand up for LGBT rights, but do straight people really deserve an enormous pat on the back for demonstrating basic standards of human decency?



Edited at 2012-11-17 04:10 am (UTC)
idemandjustice 17th-Nov-2012 04:45 am (UTC)
I can't help but think of what's said to allies in just about every regard, "What do you want, a cookie?" So, I'm trying to figure out if this is tongue in cheek.
timepassedyouby 17th-Nov-2012 04:11 am (UTC)
...Yes, please tell me how I deserve a cookie for thinking everyone should have equal rights.
skellington1 17th-Nov-2012 05:53 pm (UTC)
Yeah, "Not being an asshole" is a goal we should all aspire to, but I don't think we deserve special snowflake praise just for managing some basic human decency. :|
astridmyrna 17th-Nov-2012 04:14 am (UTC)
the_gabih 18th-Nov-2012 09:33 pm (UTC)
best response
redstar826 17th-Nov-2012 04:30 am (UTC)
I'm not terribly bothered by this. If this is something that individual queer people want to do, more power to them. It's one thing when straight people come asking for cookies, but it sounds like this is being created by queer folks who want to show appreciation to their straight friends. I'm not going to tell other queer people that they are wrong for doing this.
zemi_chan 17th-Nov-2012 04:50 am (UTC)
Well put.
caterfree10 17th-Nov-2012 05:01 am (UTC)
I read "Dan Savage" and stopped reading. He can go fuck himself, tbqh.
rkt 17th-Nov-2012 05:07 am (UTC)

i have no words. and usually i have a string of them about this piece of shit.
rkt 17th-Nov-2012 05:07 am (UTC)
bored cookie
astridmyrna 17th-Nov-2012 06:04 am (UTC)
LOL.

ETA:

"Why Dan Savage not give Cookie Monster any cookies?"

Edited at 2012-11-17 06:05 am (UTC)
grimmerlove 17th-Nov-2012 05:07 am (UTC)
By the way, this is hardly the place for allies to comment about how they feel they don't deserve cookies.
thecityofdis 17th-Nov-2012 06:48 am (UTC)
thank you for saying this. i thought i was being overly harsh for giving those comments the side-eye.
natyanayaki 17th-Nov-2012 06:05 am (UTC)
Straight people who are against bigotry don't deserve praise, and the term "straight ally" is IMO horrendous; a right's activist's sexual orientation is irrelevant, just as his/her race, ethnicity, creed, sex, gender, height, weight are irrelevant.

If someone feels the need to do this, that's fine, it's just not necessary and it's a shame that society has made it seem as if it's rare to be a just human being.

Edited at 2012-11-17 06:07 am (UTC)
thecityofdis 17th-Nov-2012 06:12 am (UTC)
a right's activist's sexual orientation is irrelevant

what on earth
aragorn 17th-Nov-2012 06:13 am (UTC)
This douche is still trying to be relevant?
ennifer_jay 17th-Nov-2012 06:50 am (UTC)
I fucking hate Dan Savage ugh
lady_borg 17th-Nov-2012 11:49 am (UTC)
Dan Savage Thanks Straight Allies

Aaaaaaand that's where I stopped reading.
teacoat 17th-Nov-2012 03:52 pm (UTC)
You got three words farther than I did then, haha.
bleed_peroxide 17th-Nov-2012 01:16 pm (UTC)
It's nice that straight people voted in favor of gay marriage, and I can appreciate that there are a few of them that don't have their heads up their asses. But they don't deserve extra accolades for not being shitty human beings.
executivehpfan 17th-Nov-2012 02:05 pm (UTC)
YMMV on whether or not straight people deserve praise for being decent human beings, but Dan Savage can seriously fuck right off.
angelofdeath275 17th-Nov-2012 02:26 pm (UTC)
my thoughts exactly. as soon as i see his name, thats all.
metanoiame 17th-Nov-2012 02:05 pm (UTC)
"Thousands and thousands of straight people stood with us and fought for us. We had help. And that's what we should thank the straight people for. Not for granting us our rights—rights are rights are rights—but for joining our fight."

That's the part that makes sense to me.
chasingtides 17th-Nov-2012 02:30 pm (UTC)
I do personal thank people who have been allies to me - not because they deserve praise for being decent human beings, but because for the majority of my life, I had none of that. So it's important for me to be like, "Yo, Joe, you're bringing up the general decency of humanity by your existence. Keep it up!" And it generally goes like that. It does not generally go with picture taking and lush praises on the internet.
redstar826 17th-Nov-2012 05:47 pm (UTC)
same here
teacup_werewolf 17th-Nov-2012 03:02 pm (UTC)
Oh. Dan Savage. This asshole
the_physicist 17th-Nov-2012 04:51 pm (UTC)
didn't even know who he was until this post.

then i read through the link posted here to read up about him...

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fm_gatekeeper 17th-Nov-2012 03:26 pm (UTC)
Go away Savage, no one likes you.
casketscratcher 17th-Nov-2012 05:03 pm (UTC)
Unfortunately, some people do. :(

Unfortunately I have to put up with some of these people in my day-to-day life.
girlwonderrobin 17th-Nov-2012 03:55 pm (UTC)
I have so many friends who are gay and bi, and tbqh I don't feel right being called a straight ally. I'm not their ally, I'm their friend. I do what I do out of love and respect for them, because I feel like by depriving someone of basic human rights, you might as well say "you are not human". I stand up for them, I stand side by side with them at events not because it's something I want to be thanked for, but because what the rest of us take for granted? They're giving blood sweat and tears to win.

It's a nice gesture, but one I feel is unnecessary. I'd be much happier to get an invite to my childhood friend's wedding, when she finds the right woman for her, and have the privilege of celebrating her happily ever after with her.
kynical 17th-Nov-2012 04:05 pm (UTC)
Got to Dan Savage and stopped reading. Mr. TransandBisexualhater.
popehippo 17th-Nov-2012 04:22 pm (UTC)
Well he's gotta suck up to straight folks 'cause god knows how many actually queer folks realized by now that he's a pile or cat shit.

girly123 17th-Nov-2012 04:35 pm (UTC)
Lol inorite

But to be honest, Savage Love was only really ever effective for vanilla-ass het couples who couldn't mutually communicate themselves out of a paper bag.
myrrhmade 17th-Nov-2012 05:53 pm (UTC)
I can't stand him, honestly. And I just want to say that this makes me uncomfortable as fuck. I feel weird being thanked for being a decent human being and NOT denying people their basic human rights.
unbridledglee 17th-Nov-2012 06:25 pm (UTC)
I am actually side-eyeing myself for scrolling through the article post thing looking for the picture with the cookies. I just wanted to see what they looked liked. :V
heresie_irisee 17th-Nov-2012 08:55 pm (UTC)
oh, Dan Savage. I remember, two years or so back, a decent post of his made the rounds of tumblr and I checked him out. I went as far as a podcast where he told a woman in a long-term same sex relationship who was attracted to a male coworker "of all the lesbian I've known, half of them are married to men now, and the rest are men now. And they're gay men" and generally went on to say that women can never resist the allure of ciscock for long and that lesbians are bound to turn straight.

Because, y'know, that's not at all a common narrative, and also totally what I needed to hear from someone I though was a queer activist at a time when I was young and very scared, confused and insecure wrt my sexuality. I was nearly crying.

tl;dr -- you don't speak for me, asshole, gtfo.
the_gabih 18th-Nov-2012 09:40 pm (UTC)
Oh jfc I had no idea he said that. What an utter ass.
lestat 17th-Nov-2012 10:15 pm (UTC)
my hatred of dan savage just increased at the usage of 'breeder'.
ashen_key 17th-Nov-2012 10:50 pm (UTC)
This.

Let's just a) reduce women to their reproductive organs, because that's not problematic, and b) ignore all queer families, because only straight people have children, right?

>.<
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