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9:40 pm - 11/16/2012
Dan Savage Thanks Straight Allies For Gay Marriage Support

Dan Savage, creator of the It Gets Better campaign, launched a new website to thank straight allies of the LGBT community for supporting marriage equality according to Gay Star News.

"Last week on my blog, I floated the idea of having a big party for all the straight people who came through for us in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State," Savage wrote. "But all those straight people wouldn't fit in a single ballroom. But we can fit them on a single Tumblr page."

And so began, "Straight Up Thanks," a photo site dedicated to all the straight allies who supported equal marriage rights in the elections.

The 2012 elections were historic for the LGBT community in many ways, and marriage equality was certainly a major victory particularly in Maine, Maryland, and Washington.

According to an ABC News-Washington Post poll, 51 percent of all Americans support gay marriage. Though some still fight on against gay marriage, this the fifth poll since March of 2011 that says a majority of Americans support marriage equality.

Savage, for one, feels optimistic that the tide won't reverse the other way anytime soon, especially since the LGBT community has such strong allies.

"I know so many straight people in Washington State, where I live, who worked unbelievably hard on the campaign to win marriage equality for their gay and lesbian friends, family members, and neighbors. I know straight people in all four states who voted, gave money, worked phone banks, and knocked on doors -- all in an effort to make it possible for same-sex couples to marry."

And for that he says, Thank You.

The Huffington Post.


below the cut is the post from savage love, entitled "Thank a Breeder Day"....obviously, given the nature of savage love, the latter sections are nsfw:



Reading you over the years has absolutely changed my mind on gay marriage. I wanted to let you know that. I also live in Maryland, and, as you know, we voted last week to allow same-sex couples to legally marry. I was excited that I got to vote for marriage equality in my home state, Dan-even I agree that it's fucked up that people get to vote on the civil rights of LGBT people at all. Thanks for all your writing over the years-it's really made a difference in my love and sex life. And congrats to you and all gay people in the United States for the big wins last week in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State.

Just Some Straight Guy


There's something I want to say about the votes—and about the voters—in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State. But first I want to say this to all my fellow queers: We built this. The breakthroughs we saw last week, which included the election of the first openly gay person to the United States Senate (Wisconsin's Tammy Baldwin), we made that. LGBT people came out, fought back, and changed the world. We have a fuck of a lot left to do—repeal DOMA, pass ENDA, unfinished business with DADT (trans people are still barred from serving), defending the rights of queers around the world—but LGBT people have made tremendous progress since Stonewall. It has gotten better for us because we came out and fought to make it better. We demanded better.

Now here is what I want to say to straight people: Thank you.

I know so many straight people in Washington State, where I live, who worked unbelievably hard on the campaign to win marriage equality for their gay and lesbian friends, family members, and neighbors. I know straight people in all four states who voted, gave money, worked phone banks, and knocked on doors—all in an effort to make it possible for same-sex couples to marry.

Gays and lesbians are a tiny percentage of the population. And while we laid the groundwork for the breakthroughs we saw last week in Maine, Maryland, Washington, and Minnesota—we built this—we didn't build it on our own. The majorities in the state legislatures in Maine, Maryland, and Washington that voted to make same-sex marriage legal? Straight. The governors who signed laws making same-sex marriage legal? Straight. The overwhelming majority of people who voted in favor of marriage equality in all three states after anti-gay bigots forced public votes on our civil rights? Straight. The majority that voted against writing anti-gay bigotry into Minnesota's state constitution? Straight. And the president who took a huge political risk and came out for marriage equality before his reelection campaign? Straight. It has gotten better for us—better, not perfect—but it hasn't gotten better for us in a vacuum. It's gotten better for us because straight people have gotten better about us.

Rights are rights. They shouldn't be put up for a vote. And we shouldn't have to say "thank you" when they're recognized. The sad fact is that we have had to fight for our rights. But here's the happy fact: We didn't have to fight this one alone. Thousands and thousands of straight people stood with us and fought for us. We had help. And that's what we should thank the straight people for. Not for granting us our rights—rights are rights are rights—but for joining our fight.

Last week on my blog, I floated the idea of having a big party for all the straight people who came through for us in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State. But all those straight people wouldn't fit in a single ballroom. But we can fit them on a single Tumblr page. Queers? If you know a straight person in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, or Washington—if you know a straight in any state or the District of Columbia—who donated money, phone-banked, went door-to-door, or took a political risk on our behalf, take your picture with that straight person, write a few words about what they did, and post it to www.straightupthanks.tumblr.com.

We saw a huge breakthrough in the struggle for LGBT equality last week. And it wouldn't have happened without the help of so many righteous, kick-ass straight people. I'll bet every queer person reading this knows a straight person who they should thank. I certainly do. Thank them in a public way: Go to www. straightupthanks.tumblr.com, click "submit a post," share a photo, and thank a straight ally.

Because we literally couldn't have done it without them.
caterfree10 17th-Nov-2012 05:01 am (UTC)
I read "Dan Savage" and stopped reading. He can go fuck himself, tbqh.
rkt 17th-Nov-2012 05:07 am (UTC)

i have no words. and usually i have a string of them about this piece of shit.
mimblexwimble 17th-Nov-2012 05:13 am (UTC)
IAWTC
pamuya 17th-Nov-2012 05:15 am (UTC)
same here...just seeing his name enrages me
idemandjustice 17th-Nov-2012 05:32 am (UTC)
Wow, I knew about a few of those, but there are lows in there I had no idea of.
effervescent 17th-Nov-2012 06:02 am (UTC)
...wow. I wasn't aware of this. Thanks for this post.
astridmyrna 17th-Nov-2012 06:08 am (UTC)
This guy is un-fucking-believable.
ennifer_jay 17th-Nov-2012 06:49 am (UTC)
ditto
alryssa 17th-Nov-2012 06:50 am (UTC)
mte. ugh.
koshkabegemot 17th-Nov-2012 05:19 pm (UTC)
Best use of an Avatar .gif ever.
the_physicist 17th-Nov-2012 12:55 pm (UTC)
O_O

What the ever loving fuck did I just read?!

Eta:

Okay, wow, so ppl should ignore my post above. He probably isnt thinking about the societal problems some of the allies might not have been campaigning for in order to put their effort into equal marriage -_-

Seriously, TW for that like for... everything. I hate most advice columnist for being their fucked up advice on trans* issues but that?! I didn't read on when I got to that.

I know the charity he set up has saved the life of at least one trans* friend of mine, so I'm glad the volunteers there don't all take after him...

Edited at 2012-11-17 01:02 pm (UTC)
shoujokakumei 17th-Nov-2012 01:52 pm (UTC)
Yep, he's a rancid piece of shit.
ntensity 17th-Nov-2012 03:55 pm (UTC)
Oh my god. Thank you for posting this. I cannot believe this shit I'm reading...
gretchystretchy 17th-Nov-2012 04:11 pm (UTC)
Wow. I've known for a long time that he's a transphobic, sexist, etc douchewaffle, but his response to the rape survivor is one of the most disgusting things I've ever seen.
the_physicist 17th-Nov-2012 04:48 pm (UTC)
... i'm fucking glad i didn't read on.
girly123 17th-Nov-2012 05:47 pm (UTC)
It's so fucked up. I read maybe two sentences before I had to stop.
the_physicist 17th-Nov-2012 06:42 pm (UTC)
*shudder*

i kind of want to know now who the fuck this guy actually is beyond founding 'it's gets better' (like, who on earth lets him write and publish anything?!), but i also think i don't want to google him and find myself accidentally reading something like that... shit.
salienne 17th-Nov-2012 04:26 pm (UTC)
He's pretty much an all-around hideous person. I don't particularly care about his "Straight Up Thanks" tumblr, but I'd be happy if I never had to hear about him again.
chargingkrogan 17th-Nov-2012 04:31 pm (UTC)
THANK YOU for this. I've always been uncomfortable with the It Gets Better movement anyway, and I've seen comments referring to Dan Savage's particular brand of awful, but having it all laid out there with handy links has been exactly what I was looking for, both to educate myself and others. I might have thrown up a little while reading, but still, thank you for linking this.
casketscratcher 17th-Nov-2012 05:01 pm (UTC)
THANK YOU. I had a quick browse through the comments here expecting only praise for him so thank you for proving me wrong. I fucking hate that smug piece of shit.
koshkabegemot 17th-Nov-2012 05:20 pm (UTC)
He and Hugo Schweitzer must be besties.
oudeteron 17th-Nov-2012 07:06 pm (UTC)
Seriously, this.
maynardsong 18th-Nov-2012 03:28 pm (UTC)
He also wrote this: http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2011/06/20/bristol-palin-levi-raped-me TW for misogyny and victim blaming, obviously.
nepthys_12 19th-Nov-2012 02:47 am (UTC)
As if I needed more reasons to absolutely despise Dan Savage, JFC he just keeps digging himself deeper into that shit hole.
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