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Gay men sue counselors who promised to make them straight

2:10 pm - 11/27/2012


(CNN) -- Before Sheldon Bruck told his orthodox Jewish parents he was gay, the teenager looked for a way out of homosexuality.

His search led him to JONAH -- Jews Offering New Alternatives for Healing -- which claimed on its website to help people "struggling with unwanted same-sex sexual attractions."

JONAH co-director Arthur Goldberg promised Bruck, then 17, that "JONAH could help him change his orientation from gay to straight," according to a consumer fraud lawsuit filed Tuesday against JONAH, Goldberg and a JONAH counselor.


"This is the first time that plaintiffs have sought to hold conversion therapists liable in a court of law," said Samuel Wolfe, a lawyer with the Southern Poverty Law Center.

The defendants did not respond to CNN calls and e-mails for comment on the lawsuit, which was filed in Hudson County, New Jersey, Superior Court. A page on the organization's website touts success stories from the program with letters from past participants and their family members.

Bruck and three male plaintiffs contend they were defrauded by JONAH's claim that "being gay is a mental disorder" that could be reversed by conversion therapy -- "a position rejected by the American Psychiatric Association four decades ago," the lawsuit said.

The therapy, which can cost up to $10,000 a year, put them at risk of "depression, anxiety and self-destructive behavior," while giving them no benefits, the suit said.

Jo Bruck, Sheldon's mother, and Bella Levin, the mother of plaintiff Chaim Levin, are also plaintiffs because they paid for their sons' conversion therapy and the counseling the suit said they needed to recover from it.

The conversion therapy techniques included having them strip naked in group sessions, cuddling and intimate holding of others of the same-sex, violently beating an effigy of their mothers with a tennis racket, visiting bath houses "in order to be nude with father figures," and being "subjected to ridicule as 'faggots' and 'homos' in mock locker room scenarios," the suit said.

"As long as you put in the effort, you're going to change," Goldberg told Bruck in the summer of 2009, the lawsuit said.

JONAH counselor Thaddeus Heffner blamed Bruck's gay orientation "on Bruck for not working hard enough to change, on his father for being too distant, and on his mother for being too close to him," the suit said.

Bruck quit after five sessions, delivered through an online video link, because he "experienced deepening depression and anxiety leading to suicidal ideation and feelings of hopelessness about his life," the suit said.

Heffner angrily warned Bruck that he was "making a big mistake" and "throwing (his) life away" by "giving into (his) desires" and that he would "never lead a happy life," but would "lead a life of unhappiness in that unhealthy lifestyle," the suit said.

Chaim Levin, also an orthodox Jew, was about to turn 17 in 2007 when he talked to his parents about his sexual orientation and sexual abuse when he was younger. A rabbi in his Brooklyn, New York, community suggested to his parents that they enroll him in JONAH's program.

"You can change if you just try hard enough," the suit said Goldberg told him. "You just need to work really hard, we are experts at this. We have helped so many people."

Levin attended weekly sessions for 18 months at JONAH's Jersey City, New Jersey, headquarters conducted by Alan Downing, an unlicensed JONAH counselor who calls himself a "life coach," the suit said. Downing is named as a defendant in the case.

"I was manipulated into believing that I could change my sexual orientation, but instead I was subjected to terrible abuse that mirrored the traumatic assault that I experienced as a young person," Levin said at a news conference Tuesday. " What I can tell you is that conversion therapy does not work. My family and I have wasted thousands of dollars and many hours on this scam."

The lawsuit described what happened in one of those sessions in October 2008 with Levin, who was 18 at the time.

"Downing initiated a discussion about Levin's body and instructed Levin to stand in front of a full-length mirror and hold a staff," the suit said. "Downing directed Levin to say one negative thing about himself, remove an article of clothing, then repeat the process. Although Levin protested and expressed discomfort, at Downing's insistence, Levin submitted and continued until he was fully naked. Downing then instructed Levin to touch his penis and then his buttocks. Levin, unsure what to do but trusting in and relying on Downing, followed the instructions, upon which Downing said 'good' and the session ended."

Two other plaintiffs -- Benjamin Unger and Michael Ferguson -- described similar incidents in the suit.

"On one occasion, Downing instructed Unger to beat an effigy of his mother with a tennis racket, as though killing her, and encouraged Unger to scream at his mother while beating her effigy," the suit said.

"Conversion therapy was, in Unger's experience, 'psychological abuse,'" it said. "By the time he terminated sessions with JONAH, he was deeply depressed and had commenced taking antidepressant medications."

Downing "picked apart every human emotion and childhood disappointment" of Unger, to present them as treatable origins of Unger's orientation, the suit said.

"I watched as grown men were frenzied into fits of emotional rage against their mothers and encouraged to act out physical violence against their parents in order to access their so-called true manhood and become more heterosexual," Ferguson told reporters Tuesday.

Unger's ability to have physical and emotional relationships with men was impaired and he was unable to work for a year, the suit said.

Bruck, Levin, Unger and Ferguson are "adjusting well" four years after their last conversion therapy treatments, according to Wolfe. "They have had time to get on with their lives," he said.

Their lawsuit should put all conversion therapists on notice that they can be held accountable, Wolfe said.

The SPLC has identified 70 conversion therapy providers across the United States. A California law signed by Gov. Jerry Brown last month made it illegal for licensed counselors to use the therapy with clients under 18.

"We really want to bring this lawsuit to bring attention to this practice that takes place in many parts of the country, preying on vulnerable young people," Wolfe said.

By Alan Duke, CNN. updated 1:04 PM EST, Tue November 27, 2012


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tiddlywinks103 28th-Nov-2012 08:53 am (UTC)
lmao. I can't...
suzycat 28th-Nov-2012 11:20 am (UTC)
Quite apart from all the horrific abusive stuff they were doing to these poor men, I am trying to fathom how they thought that asking young gay men in denial to *go and hang out in bathhouses* was going to "cure" their homosexuality.

I mean there's only one use for bathhouses that I know of. Unless it was a special In Denial Jewish Men's Group Only bathhouse, in which case I am picturing the closeted men running the programme creepily perving on their naked, anxious charges while trying to convince themselves that the whole thing was not in any way sexual.
moonshaz 28th-Nov-2012 07:11 pm (UTC)
But but but the trips to the bathhouses were "in order to be nude with father figures." And everyone knows that The Gay is caused by never being nude with a father figure, right... so being nude with them would automatically "cure" it, right? Right? /sarcasm
suzycat 28th-Nov-2012 10:30 pm (UTC)
I KNOW RIGHT. It seems like a very strange creepy form of humiliation.
the_physicist 28th-Nov-2012 11:33 am (UTC)
couldn't read all of that article, it's too horrifying.
redstar826 28th-Nov-2012 01:26 pm (UTC)
When I was in my early 20s, I very briefly flirted with the idea of looking into some of those ex-gay groups. Thankfully, it never went beyond a few internet searches but I really fucking hate that this stuff even exists.

When I was hospitalized, my mom asked the social worker if it was possible to make me straight. Thankfully, said social worker read her the riot act (and I was old enough that she couldn't legally force me into anything and my mom got over that idea pretty quickly anyways) but I wonder what would have happened if my parents had found out when I was younger. Sad thing is, I don't think they would have forced me into anything out of maliciousness but because they honestly would think that they were helping.
ragnor144 28th-Nov-2012 01:57 pm (UTC)
This is no more than getting people to pay you to abuse them, and from the description of some of the "therapy" get your sexual kinks serviced. I did a quick search but I could not find a figure for how many people committed suicide while undergoing this abuse. A few manslaughter charges, even if a conviction doesn't come, might get these horrible people out of the business too.
poetic_pixie_13 28th-Nov-2012 02:46 pm (UTC)
The conversion therapy techniques included having them strip naked in group sessions, cuddling and intimate holding of others of the same-sex, violently beating an effigy of their mothers with a tennis racket, visiting bath houses "in order to be nude with father figures," and being "subjected to ridicule as 'faggots' and 'homos' in mock locker room scenarios," the suit said.

The fucking fuck. That is abuse. And intensely disgusting. I can't imagine.

I hope these folks win their suit and that it leads to more of these bullshit practitioners to close down because of it.

I also hope they're at a place where they're healing and able to love and accept themselves and that their parents have learnt to be supportive and accepting.
shhh_its_s3cr3t 28th-Nov-2012 03:13 pm (UTC)
Truly disgusted right now. Legalizing abuse in the name of correcting something that AIN'T BROKE.. it is W R O N G. Thanks.
luminescnece 28th-Nov-2012 04:02 pm (UTC)
What I really don't understand is why there are mothers who will consent to their children attending this program.

The sexual and mental abuse of my child aside, training my child to beat an effigy of me to death sounds peachy keen.
mornings 28th-Nov-2012 04:48 pm (UTC)
This was my first thought, too. Wtf?
redstar826 28th-Nov-2012 06:26 pm (UTC)
my guess is that they don't know all of the specifics of the program. And if someone sincerely believes that God hates homosexuality, they probably think they are helping their child by trying to 'fix' them.
suzycat 28th-Nov-2012 10:31 pm (UTC)
I guess if you believe a gay life is a terrible one, and especially if your kid is saying they don't want to be gay, you'd be all for it. I bet they didn't advertise the tennis racquet aspect though.
unclesamonmars 29th-Nov-2012 04:51 am (UTC)
The type of parents that would send their child to this type of therapy strike me as the "I've failed as a mother/father" kind of people. I don't think they'd mind.
little_rachael 28th-Nov-2012 04:56 pm (UTC)
It seems that this "therapy" is less about making gay kids straight and more about bullying them back into the closet.
moonshaz 28th-Nov-2012 07:16 pm (UTC)
Hadn't thought of that way, but it's an EXCELLENT point.
tallycola 28th-Nov-2012 06:03 pm (UTC)
The conversion therapy techniques included having them strip naked in group sessions, cuddling and intimate holding of others of the same-sex, violently beating an effigy of their mothers with a tennis racket, visiting bath houses "in order to be nude with father figures," and being "subjected to ridicule as 'faggots' and 'homos' in mock locker room scenarios," the suit said.


What in the world?

The therapy in "But I'm a Cheerleader" made more sense than this.
crossfire 28th-Nov-2012 06:31 pm (UTC)
visiting bath houses "in order to be nude with father figures,"

emma-watson-wtf

So many things wrong with just that alone I can't even.
terra_tenshi 28th-Nov-2012 10:45 pm (UTC)
I hope these people win and that a lot of these snake oil salesmen close down because of it. I also hope that if/when they win people don't use this as an attempt to shut down legitimate therapists and therapy groups because they don't approve of the treatment or because it doesn't work for everyone.
thatdamnninja 29th-Nov-2012 10:50 am (UTC)

What the shit?
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