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NYT Writer: A scarcity of women causes harassment and rape

8:22 am - 01/17/2013
OP: notice that no one seems to directly blame the men for their behavior except for a toss off line about how this is all the fault of outsiders. Somehow being deprived of easy sex with highly attractive women turns men into monsters. As I have said in many comments, all these articles sound like arguments to gouge out men's eyes and lock them away as a danger to society. Instead of cogent commentary I've just added snarktastic parenthetical remarks.

An Oil Town Where Men Are Many, and Women Are Hounded
by JOHN ELIGON

WILLISTON, N.D. — Christina Knapp and a friend were drinking shots at a bar in a nearby town several weeks ago when a table of about five men called them over and made an offer.
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They would pay the women $3,000 to strip naked and serve them beer at their house while they watched mixed martial arts fights on television. Ms. Knapp, 22, declined, but the men kept raising the offer, reaching $7,000. [Way to endear yourselves to the local womenfolk!]

“I said I make more money doing my job than degrading myself to do that,” said Ms. Knapp, a tattoo artist with dark streaks in her light brown hair, a bird tattoo on her chest and piercings above her lip and left cheekbone.

The rich shale oil formation deep below the rolling pastures here has attracted droves of young men to work the labor-intensive jobs that get the wells flowing and often generate six-figure salaries. What the oil boom has not brought, however, are enough single women.



At work, at housing camps and in bars and restaurants, men have been left to mingle with their own. High heels and skirts are as rare around here as veggie burgers. Some men liken the environment to the military or prison.

“It’s bad, dude,” said Jon Kenworthy, 22, who moved to Williston from Indiana in early December. “I was talking to my buddy here. I told him I was going to import from Indiana because there’s nothing here.” [because women are totally just items to move around, am I right?]

This has complicated life for women in the region as well.

Many said they felt unsafe. Several said they could not even shop at the local Walmart without men following them through the store. Girls’ night out usually becomes an exercise in fending off obnoxious, overzealous suitors who often flaunt their newfound wealth.[obnoxious, overzealous harassers and potential rapists you mean]

“So many people look at you like you’re a piece of meat,” said Megan Dye, 28, a nearly lifelong Williston resident. “It’s disgusting. It’s gross.”

Prosecutors and the police note an increase in crimes against women, including domestic and sexual assaults. “There are people arriving in North Dakota every day from other places around the country who do not respect the people or laws of North Dakota,” said Ariston E. Johnson, the deputy state’s attorney in neighboring McKenzie County, in an e-mail. [yes - it is always those "other" guys, not our good citizens]

Over the past six years, North Dakota has shot from the middle of the pack to become the state with the third-highest ratio of single young men to single young women in the country. In 2011, nearly 58 percent of North Dakota’s unmarried 18-to-34-year-olds were men, according to census data. That disparity was even starker in the three counties where the oil boom is heaviest — there were more than 1.6 young single men for every young single woman.

And most people around here say the gap is considerably larger. Census data mostly captures permanent residents. Most of the men who come here to work maintain their primary residences elsewhere and split time between the oil fields and their homes. And women note that many of the men who approach them are married. [extra skeezy bonus]

Some women have banked on the female shortage. Williston’s two strip clubs attract dancers from around the country. Prostitutes from out of state troll the bars. [Oh, the poor exploited menz!]

Natasha, 31, an escort and stripper from Las Vegas, is currently on her second stint here after hearing how much money strippers made in Williston on a CNN report last year. Business in her industry is much better here than in the rest of the country, she said. She makes at least $500 a night, but more often she exceeds $1,000.

“We make a lot of money because there’s a lot of lonely guys,” she said.

On a recent night at City Bar in nearby Watford City, the only women in the long, wood-paneled room were two bartenders and the woman running the karaoke. Under flashing lights, some of the male patrons huddled at the bar, while others played games like simulated buck shooting and darts.

Zach Mannon, 23, who has been working in the oil patch for three years, said he once bumped accidentally into a woman in a bar packed with men. He excused himself, he said, but then her boyfriend came over and accused him of grabbing her buttocks. He denied it. The man insisted they step outside, so they did, but 14 of Mr. Mannon’s co-workers from his rig came along. The man backed down, they talked things over and no punches were thrown.

For Mr. Mannon, having women around was more about finding sanity than a soul mate.

“Out here, you can’t tell a guy, like, ‘I had a rough day,’ “ Mr. Mannon said. “They’re going to go, ‘Everyone has a rough day. Get over it, you sissy.’ [because feeling are for gay men and silly women - no cultural problems here]

“The bartender,” he added, nodding toward the bar, “she’s the friendliest gal in the world. Every time I go in, she goes, ‘How was your day, Zach?’ I say, ‘Ah, it was long; it was cold out.’ She actually listens.” [I'm sure this has nothing to do with how well you men tip her if she seems sympathetic]

But sensitivity is often absent here when men discuss women. Here, men talk of a “Williston 10” — a woman who would be considered mediocre in any other city is considered a perfect 10 out here. [Gee - I wonder why it is hard for you handsome devils to attract women]

“I’ve noticed my standards dropping,” said Ian Hernandez, 24, who moved to Williston from Chicago a couple of months ago. “I just went home two weeks ago. I saw the girls I had planned to see. That, hopefully, should hold me off until I go back next time in two months or so.”

Some men have forced themselves on women.

Jessica Brightbill, a single 24-year-old who moved here from Grand Rapids, Mich., a year and a half ago, said she was walking to work at 3:30 in the afternoon when a car with two men suddenly pulled up behind her. One hopped out and grabbed her by her arms and began dragging her. She let her body go limp so she would be harder to drag. Eventually, a man in a truck pulled up and began yelling at the men and she got away, she said. The episode left her rattled.

Going out alone is now out of the question, and the friend she moved here with no longer has much time to spend with her because she has since found a boyfriend and had a baby. Ms. Brightbill said she has difficulty finding other young single women with the freedom to hang out. And, she said, finding good men does not come easy.

“It’s just people trying to have sex,” she said.

But some women have taken aggressive steps to protect themselves.

At the urging of her family, Barbara Coughlin, 31, who recently moved to Williston after her 11-year marriage ended, is now getting her concealed weapons permit so she can carry a Taser. Ms. Coughlin, who wore silver glitter around her eyes at work as a waitress on a recent day, said her mother and stepfather, who live here, advised her to stop wearing the skirts and heels she cherishes, so she does not stand out like “a flower in the desert,” as her stepfather put it. Her family hardly ever lets her go out on her own — not even for walks down the gravel road at the housing camp where they live.

“Will I stay for very long? Probably not,” she said. “To me, there’s no money in the world worth not even being able to take a walk.”

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____jonas 17th-Jan-2013 03:38 pm (UTC)
The entitlement, I can't.

Get the fuck over yourselves, and maybe try putting in a fraction of the effort you expect women to put in when they're looking for a potential mate. We don't owe you anything.
blondebeaker 17th-Jan-2013 04:04 pm (UTC)
There is a name for guys like that in the oil industry. Rig Pigs. Dirty clothes, dirtier minds and attitudes.

And this is a brand new thing for this town too. That means this crap will continue for a good number of years before more single women and whole families move out there to balance it out.
akashasheiress 17th-Jan-2013 04:38 pm (UTC)
I can't imagine why women don't want to live there.
furrygreen 17th-Jan-2013 05:23 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I know. The pity party is just disgusting. A pack of single millionaires would have no problem attracting women to that part of the country if they didn't, ya know, treated them like walking vagina's.
bestdaywelived 17th-Jan-2013 08:24 pm (UTC)
These men are far from millionaires.
furrygreen 17th-Jan-2013 08:52 pm (UTC)
These men are far from millionaires.

They aren't? I thought they were. I've read other articles about strippers coming from around the world to dance there. They supposedly make a couple grand a night in tips. That sort of money just dovetailed into me thinking they were all rich. XD
georgeslymaniv 17th-Jan-2013 09:05 pm (UTC)
I think they're saying there's so many men throwing singles at them that they make ton of money.
catalana 17th-Jan-2013 04:56 pm (UTC)
Ms. Coughlin, who wore silver glitter around her eyes at work as a waitress on a recent day,

What on earth does this have to do with anything?
just_awkward 17th-Jan-2013 05:48 pm (UTC)
I was wondering that too. Wtf?
peace_piper 17th-Jan-2013 06:10 pm (UTC)
Me three, WTF, how is that relevant?
skellington1 17th-Jan-2013 07:12 pm (UTC)
It makes it all about what she wore, doncha know!
eyetosky 17th-Jan-2013 08:26 pm (UTC)
That was my exact thought, unless it's code for "Well, she's normally really dressed up/shameless"

"Stop wearing the skirts and heels she cherishes" got me too. Cherishes? Really?
jettakd 17th-Jan-2013 09:05 pm (UTC)
It's also an old journalistic trick to add imagery in your head in case of lack of pictures. This writer is just bad at it, and it's generally not good taste for major publications to do so.
corinn 17th-Jan-2013 10:48 pm (UTC)
Also,

Ms. Knapp, a tattoo artist with dark streaks in her light brown hair, a bird tattoo on her chest and piercings above her lip and left cheekbone.

The author doesn't describe the men beyond stuff like "who has worked there for three years" and "who moved there in December." That stuff is relevant. The employment and length of time the women have been there to notice the situation is arguably relevant. Physical descriptions of them are irrelevant and creepy, especially in the context of this article. Like the unwanted attention is because of their appearance. Like a quiet, "See, I'm quoting them on how they're complaining about unwanted attention, but I'm describing how they're doing things to attract attention anyway."
silver_apples 17th-Jan-2013 11:49 pm (UTC)
I agree. The description just seems, to me, to imply that it's no wonder the men thought she'd be willing to serve them beer naked. Dyed hair, tattoos, and piercings? No wonder the men thought she was for sale. The picture at the source shows her in a hoody, but there's no mention in the article of her casual, loose clothing, only that the tattoo on her chest is visible.
moonshaz 18th-Jan-2013 03:24 am (UTC)
The author of this article sounds like as big an asshole as the men he's describing. Which is pretty fucking HUGE.
furrygreen 17th-Jan-2013 05:17 pm (UTC)
That horrible! And I think you can read minds because I swear your added comments were exactly what I was thinking while reading this.
tabaqui 17th-Jan-2013 05:48 pm (UTC)
Wow, fuck that. How about men stop being entitled fuckheads?
kangofu 17th-Jan-2013 06:20 pm (UTC)


Money does not entitle you to another person's body. A penis does not entitle you to another person's body. Nothing entitles someone to another person's body. JFC, why is this so hard to understand?
wrestlingdog 17th-Jan-2013 10:41 pm (UTC)
Oooh, I like that .gif!
anamatics 17th-Jan-2013 06:24 pm (UTC)
I read this article yesterday (but I've used up my NYTimes viewing privileges on the computer so I couldn't post it) and I was horrified by the sheer amount of entitlement that these men have. There's a good bit of side-eye-y quotes in this from the writer's perspective as well - talking about the clothing and makeup that women who do live in this shithole wear. Really an unnecessary detail that a good editor would have cut.
lightbird777 17th-Jan-2013 08:44 pm (UTC)
There's a good bit of side-eye-y quotes in this from the writer's perspective as well - talking about the clothing and makeup that women who do live in this shithole wear.

Yeah, this writer has written more than one NYT article covering rape and they are all along the same lines. He's terrible, as is the NY Times for consistently having rape apologists (besides John Eligon) write articles about rape.
kalikahuntress 17th-Jan-2013 07:11 pm (UTC)
This headline seems really kind of gross and does the mentions of how the women look.
I feel for those women in North Dakota, in Alberta I know we have the same problem in Fort Mac.
mingemonster 17th-Jan-2013 07:27 pm (UTC)
The problem is too many men, and that men suck. JFC this place sounds like hell.
skellington1 17th-Jan-2013 07:34 pm (UTC)
Read this elsewhere, and have to say the reporter's bias comes through clear as day. A lot of focus on what women wear or look like; prostitutes are 'cashing in' but oil workers are 'hard working young men'; rape is caused by shortage of vagina access... yeah, no.

(Also, a woman who was almost ABDUCTED says she's 'rattled'? Understatement of the year, holy shit).

Over at Pharyngula there were some good points made about how a journalist comments partly based on what information they don't include: nothing from law enforcement. No comment on the toxic attitudes displayed by men ("I see my standards dropping," the PUA numerical rating of women, etc).

[Here's the same journalist covering the NYC police officer rape a while back -- sorry, alleged rape (I find some of what's missing in those articles a bit shocking, too)].
bestdaywelived 17th-Jan-2013 08:32 pm (UTC)
That's the best part. The writer makes the men seem like ideal blue collar dudes, not the loser scumbags they are in actual reality.
gloraelin 17th-Jan-2013 08:17 pm (UTC)
hmph. no discussion of how these dudebros are basically a self-encouraging cesspool? how because they're all so entitled they just egg each other on?

no?

*crickets*

I see.
bestdaywelived 17th-Jan-2013 08:30 pm (UTC)
I would be happy to engage your point. These men are basically a frat, minus the college education. They aren't prizes, certainly, which is why women probably aren't engaging them. These are the kind of men who fear educated women because they're trying to be men.

They aren't rich, or smart, they just have more money than they used to. A lot of them have wives and families back where they are from that they leave home so they can try and fuck anything that moves, with the encouragement of their stupid bros.
bestdaywelived 17th-Jan-2013 08:27 pm (UTC)
I grew up in an area near the Marcellas Shale drilling area. It brings in frankly low-quality men from out of town who treat the locals like absolute shit, although nothing as bad as this yet.
tamingheadfauna 17th-Jan-2013 08:53 pm (UTC)
OP: Love, Love, LOVE THE SNARK!

JFC. Both the author of the article and these entitled douche canoes need to GTFO already. Women do not owe anyone shit. Nor are women obligated to do anything we don't want to do.

The "What about teh Menz?!" in this article runs pretty high. Ak!
jettakd 17th-Jan-2013 09:07 pm (UTC)
The thing is, this is just a magnified version of how women in a lot of areas where women are the majority get treated. It's not about a lack of women, it's about these guys' creepy senses of entitlement.
georgeslymaniv 17th-Jan-2013 09:09 pm (UTC)
https://twitter.com/jeligon first time I've logged into twitter since 2009. seriously. This article, ugh.
fluorescenta 18th-Jan-2013 05:37 am (UTC)
tweeted him, ty for the link
poetic_pixie_13 17th-Jan-2013 09:30 pm (UTC)
The men in this article and the dude who wrote it are super gross and need multiple punches to the face.
ennifer_jay 17th-Jan-2013 10:45 pm (UTC)
Ugh, this sounds a lot like a commenter on Autostraddle.com saying that butch lesbians are "competing" over femme lesbians in NYC because there's a ~scarcity~ and didn't understand why femme lesbians in the post were insulted because we don't want to be treated as a commodity. *eyeroll*
windy_lea 17th-Jan-2013 11:53 pm (UTC)
The snark is giving me life right now because the actual contents of the article? I don't even know where to begin.

No, yeah, I do: Good fucking lord, the raging entitlement! I just, ugh, these clueless shitstains aren't even remotely aware of their own entitlement. It's all what they want, isn't it? And you've got that one fellow bemoaning the fact there aren't enough women to listen to how bad their day is whilst completely oblivious to the possibility that his bartender might not always want to hear some guy complaining about his day when he probably never asks about hers. I bet the women in town would really like to be listened to when they say "no" or tell someone they're only out for a girls' night, but no, it is all about the poor poor lonely and horny and entitled men. JFC.

/rant

nikoel 18th-Jan-2013 03:21 pm (UTC)
And of course they can't just talk to each other because ~manliness~
sunhawk 18th-Jan-2013 12:15 am (UTC)
I was going to write something scathing about men and sex but really, it's not about the sex itself, its about these men not being able to survive in an environment where there are not enough easy opportunities to treat women as nothing more than vehicles for satisfying whatever selfish desires these men have. Male entitlement is their oxygen and I hope all the women leave that town and let them just smother and blow away. Good riddance.
can_be_cruel 18th-Jan-2013 12:38 am (UTC)
Men of the world: I hate you. Please remove your balls and throw them into a volcano.
ahria 18th-Jan-2013 01:04 am (UTC)
I live on Minot AFB (not that far from Williston) and yeah, things up here are getting so crappy. A lot of that "a 5 in real city is a 10 up here!" bullshit happens with the guys on base too, it's not just the oil field.
xylophagous 18th-Jan-2013 01:59 pm (UTC)
Oooh sorry to hear that, we were just at Malmstrom which was a crappy place to be but I heard it was better than Minot.
moonshaz At least the ones in Williston, ND are (AND John Eligon)18th-Jan-2013 03:58 am (UTC)


Edited at 2013-01-18 03:58 am (UTC)
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