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Ashley Judd Slaps Media in the Face for Speculation Over Her ‘Puffy’ Appearance

6:31 pm - 04/09/2012
by Ashley Judd Apr 9, 2012 4:45 AM EDT

Ashley Judd’s 'puffy' appearance sparked a viral media frenzy. But, the actress writes, the conversation is really a misogynistic assault on all women.

The Conversation about women’s bodies exists largely outside of us, while it is also directed at (and marketed to) us, and used to define and control us. The Conversation about women happens everywhere, publicly and privately. We are described and detailed, our faces and bodies analyzed and picked apart, our worth ascertained and ascribed based on the reduction of personhood to simple physical objectification. Our voices, our personhood, our potential, and our accomplishments are regularly minimized and muted.

As an actor and woman who, at times, avails herself of the media, I am painfully aware of the conversation about women’s bodies, and it frequently migrates to my own body. I know this, even though my personal practice is to ignore what is written about me. I do not, for example, read interviews I do with news outlets. I hold that it is none of my business what people think of me. I arrived at this belief after first, when I began working as an actor 18 years ago, reading everything. I evolved into selecting only the “good” pieces to read. Over time, I matured into the understanding that good and bad are equally fanciful interpretations. I do not want to give my power, my self-esteem, or my autonomy, to any person, place, or thing outside myself. I thus abstain from all media about myself. The only thing that matters is how I feel about myself, my personal integrity, and my relationship with my Creator. Of course, it’s wonderful to be held in esteem and fond regard by family, friends, and community, but a central part of my spiritual practice is letting go of otheration. And casting one’s lot with the public is dangerous and self-destructive, and I value myself too much to do that.
However, the recent speculation and accusations in March feel different, and my colleagues and friends encouraged me to know what was being said. Consequently, I choose to address it because the conversation was pointedly nasty, gendered, and misogynistic and embodies what all girls and women in our culture, to a greater or lesser degree, endure every day, in ways both outrageous and subtle. The assault on our body image, the hypersexualization of girls and women and subsequent degradation of our sexuality as we walk through the decades, and the general incessant objectification is what this conversation allegedly about my face is really about.

A brief analysis demonstrates that the following “conclusions” were all made on the exact same day, March 20, about the exact same woman (me), looking the exact same way, based on the exact same television appearance. The following examples are real, and come from a variety of (so-called!) legitimate news outlets (such as HuffPo, MSNBC, etc.), tabloid press, and social media:

One: When I am sick for more than a month and on medication (multiple rounds of steroids), the accusation is that because my face looks puffy, I have “clearly had work done,” with otherwise credible reporters with great bravo “identifying” precisely the procedures I allegedly have had done.

Two: When my skin is nearly flawless, and at age 43, I do not yet have visible wrinkles that can be seen on television, I have had “work done,” with media outlets bolstered by consulting with plastic surgeons I have never met who “conclude” what procedures I have “clearly” had. (Notice that this is a “back-handed compliment,” too—I look so good! It simply cannot possibly be real!)

Three: When my 2012 face looks different than it did when I filmed Double Jeopardy in 1998, I am accused of having “messed up” my face (polite language here, the F word is being used more often), with a passionate lament that “Ashley has lost her familiar beauty audiences loved her for.”

Four: When I have gained weight, going from my usual size two/four to a six/eight after a lazy six months of not exercising, and that weight gain shows in my face and arms, I am a “cow” and a “pig” and I “better watch out” because my husband “is looking for his second wife.” (Did you catch how this one engenders competition and fear between women? How it also suggests that my husband values me based only on my physical appearance? Classic sexism. We won’t even address how extraordinary it is that a size eight would be heckled as “fat.”)

That the conversation about my face was initially promulgated largely by women is a sad and disturbing fact.

Five: In perhaps the coup de grace, when I am acting in a dramatic scene in Missing—the plot stating I am emotionally distressed and have been awake and on the run for days—viewers remarks ranged from “What the f--k did she do to her face?” to cautionary gloating, “Ladies, look at the work!” Footage from “Missing” obviously dates prior to March, and the remarks about how I look while playing a character powerfully illustrate the contagious and vicious nature of the conversation. The accusations and lies, introduced to the public, now apply to me as a woman across space and time; to me as any woman and to me as every woman.

That women are joining in the ongoing disassembling of my appearance is salient. Patriarchy is not men. Patriarchy is a system in which both women and men participate. It privileges, inter alia, the interests of boys and men over the bodily integrity, autonomy, and dignity of girls and women. It is subtle, insidious, and never more dangerous than when women passionately deny that they themselves are engaging in it. This abnormal obsession with women’s faces and bodies has become so normal that we (I include myself at times—I absolutely fall for it still) have internalized patriarchy almost seamlessly. We are unable at times to identify ourselves as our own denigrating abusers, or as abusing other girls and women.

A case in point is that this conversation was initially promulgated largely by women; a sad and disturbing fact. (That they are professional friends of mine, and know my character and values, is an additional betrayal.)

News outlets with whom I do serious work, such as publishing op-eds about preventing HIV, empowering poor youth worldwide, and conflict mineral mining in Democratic Republic of Congo, all ran this “story” without checking with my office first for verification, or offering me the dignity of the opportunity to comment. It’s an indictment of them that they would even consider the content printable, and that they, too, without using time-honored journalistic standards, would perpetuate with un-edifying delight such blatantly gendered, ageist, and mean-spirited content.

I hope the sharing of my thoughts can generate a new conversation: Why was a puffy face cause for such a conversation in the first place? How, and why, did people participate? If not in the conversation about me, in parallel ones about women in your sphere? What is the gloating about? What is the condemnation about? What is the self-righteous alleged “all knowing” stance of the media about? How does this symbolize constraints on girls and women, and encroach on our right to be simply as we are, at any given moment? How can we as individuals in our private lives make adjustments that support us in shedding unconscious actions, internalized beliefs, and fears about our worthiness, that perpetuate such meanness? What can we do as families, as groups of friends? Is what girls and women can do different from what boys and men can do? What does this have to do with how women are treated in the workplace?

I ask especially how we can leverage strong female-to-female alliances to confront and change that there is no winning here as women. It doesn’t actually matter if we are aging naturally, or resorting to surgical assistance. We experience brutal criticism. The dialogue is constructed so that our bodies are a source of speculation, ridicule, and invalidation, as if they belong to others—and in my case, to the actual public. (I am also aware that inevitably some will comment that because I am a creative person, I have abdicated my right to a distinction between my public and private selves, an additional, albeit related, track of highly distorted thinking that will have to be addressed at another time).

If this conversation about me is going to be had, I will do my part to insist that it is a feminist one, because it has been misogynistic from the start. Who makes the fantastic leap from being sick, or gaining some weight over the winter, to a conclusion of plastic surgery? Our culture, that’s who. The insanity has to stop, because as focused on me as it appears to have been, it is about all girls and women. In fact, it’s about boys and men, too, who are equally objectified and ridiculed, according to heteronormative definitions of masculinity that deny the full and dynamic range of their personhood. It affects each and every one of us, in multiple and nefarious ways: our self-image, how we show up in our relationships and at work, our sense of our worth, value, and potential as human beings. Join in—and help change—the Conversation.

Ashley Judd is a prolific actress, who will next be seen in ABC’s new midseason show, Missing. Judd most recently appeared in Dolphin Tale alongside Morgan Freeman, Harry Connick Jr. and Kris Kristofferson. Judd is also on the board of directors for PSI (Population Services International), which she joined in 2004 after serving as Global Ambassador for PSI’s HIV education and prevention program, YouthAIDS since 2002. Judd has visited PSI programs in Thailand, Cambodia, Madagascar, Kenya, South Africa, Guatemala, Honduras, Nicaragua, El Salvador, India, Rwanda and the Democratic Republic of Congo. In her work, she witnesses the lives of the exploited and poor to help educated the world about the reality of global poverty and bring solutions to the devastating effects of social injustice and gender inequality. Judd was the subject of three award-winning documentaries aired in more than 150 countries worldwide on VH1, The Discovery Channel and The National Geographic Channel. In her role as PSI board member, Judd has graced the covers of countless magazines and been the subject of newspaper and television interviews bringing vital awareness to issues closest to her heart, gender inequality and poverty alleviation. Judd has visited legislators on Capitol Hill, addressed the General Assembly of the UN on the scourge human trafficking, spoke at the National Press Club, testified before the Senate Foreign Relations Committee for the protection of vulnerable women from violence, sexual abuse and HIV and, most recently served as an expert panelist at Clinton Global Initiative to discuss the issue of safe water and the empowerment of girls in the developing world. Recently, Judd has come on board as a spokesperson for organizations Defenders for Wildlife and The Sierra Club providing her time and voice to advocate against practices of aerial wolf hunting (Defenders for Wildlife) and mountaintop removal coal mining (The Sierra Club). She resides in Tennessee and Scotland with her husband, the international racing star Dario Franchitti. They have 8 beloved pets and enjoy a quiet, rural life.
Source.  I don't know much about Ashley Judd but this piece made me love her.  Go go go!
nostopplx 10th-Apr-2012 01:50 am (UTC)
Good for her but a lot of members of my family work in the travel industry and say she's a royal cunt to everyone and try to avoid her like the plague when she steps into an airport.
sesmo 10th-Apr-2012 01:51 am (UTC)
Why don't you try that without the gendered insult.
yeats 10th-Apr-2012 02:00 am (UTC)
i met her when she took part in the 2004 march for women's lives in washington - such a fucking cool lady!
violetrose 10th-Apr-2012 04:08 am (UTC)
I was going to mention this! Tbh it would be great if more celebs came out as feminist because I think that could help make it a cool thing.

But that's my optimism showing. :P
__fasterfaster 10th-Apr-2012 02:11 am (UTC)
oh, this is great.
bnmc2005 10th-Apr-2012 02:31 am (UTC)
It is always nice to see women in the media speak back against the tidal wave of misogyny and bullshit. They do so knowing they will be inevitably mocked and criticized for even having an opinion.
roseofjuly 10th-Apr-2012 11:43 pm (UTC)
The LA times was quick and already wrote a dismissive article titled "Ashley Judd Protests Too Much." Apparently, she's not allowed to defend herself against misogyny and mean-spirited criticism because signing up for an acting career automatically means you have to take whatever negative, biased, sexist commentary that's out there smiling.

Oh, also, this isn't misogyny! Misogyny is when women are barred from the Augusta golf club or burned with acid in Pakistan, not when we mercilessly criticize women for their looks while letting men get a pass with everything. THose two are not related AT ALL.
arisma 10th-Apr-2012 02:45 am (UTC)
I posted this on my FB... first comment from my female cousin was 'yea but her face did look fat'.
hiddenfantasy 10th-Apr-2012 02:49 am (UTC)
*headdesk*
hiddenfantasy 10th-Apr-2012 02:51 am (UTC)

If this conversation about me is going to be had, I will do my part to insist that it is a feminist one, because it has been misogynistic from the start. Who makes the fantastic leap from being sick, or gaining some weight over the winter, to a conclusion of plastic surgery? Our culture, that’s who. The insanity has to stop, because as focused on me as it appears to have been, it is about all girls and women. In fact, it’s about boys and men, too, who are equally objectified and ridiculed, according to heteronormative definitions of masculinity that deny the full and dynamic range of their personhood. It affects each and every one of us, in multiple and nefarious ways: our self-image, how we show up in our relationships and at work, our sense of our worth, value, and potential as human beings. Join in—and help change—the Conversation.


*claps*

Amen!
erunamiryene 10th-Apr-2012 03:15 am (UTC)
I love the SHIT out of this. Everything in it is goddamn amazing.
carminaburana 10th-Apr-2012 03:45 am (UTC)
I love this and all the work she's also doing for mental health advocacy. Go Ashley!
alierakieron 10th-Apr-2012 04:17 am (UTC)
This was dead on, and fabulous. LOLing about the description of the "quiet life" she leads with her internationally famous race car driving husband. IN HIS CASTLE.
But still, good on ya, ma'am.
celtic_thistle 10th-Apr-2012 04:21 am (UTC)
Fuck yeah, this piece is awesome.
lickbrains 10th-Apr-2012 05:23 am (UTC)
Been seeing this all over FB and I love it to pieces <3
kitanabychoice 10th-Apr-2012 02:17 pm (UTC)
I think it's good to make a distinction though, since it seems like this article was written for a layperson.

Men, of course, are not absolved from the wrongs they do when perpetuating patriarchy and the appropriate amount of blame should be laid at their feet, but to say that patriarchy = men absolutely (which I can see some people coming to that conclusion) just furthers the divide and gets people going about those "man-hating" feminists.
lonely_hour 10th-Apr-2012 11:30 am (UTC)
thanks for posting this very interesting article <3!
awesomesquared 10th-Apr-2012 12:47 pm (UTC)
More women need to write like this.
silmaril 10th-Apr-2012 01:28 pm (UTC)
This is beautiful.
luchador_kaiju 10th-Apr-2012 02:02 pm (UTC)
This is amazing! :)
scolaro 10th-Apr-2012 02:59 pm (UTC)
I know it's Hollywood and everything - but does no one remember that people in the real world...well, age?

Ashley Judd was incredibly young and hot in Double Jeopardy. But as she said, that was in 1998, 14 years ago. Now she's not that young anymore. So what?

Even if her face melted from her skull she would still be awesome and I'd still love watching her kick ass.
roseofjuly 10th-Apr-2012 11:45 pm (UTC)
People seriously do forget that stars are just as susceptible to aging as everyone else, or at least they believe that celebrities should disappear from the world when they turn 35 and/or develop one single line on their face or something. I'm p. sure that's the reason so many stars (especially so many female stars) get plastic surgery done as they get older.
shhh_its_s3cr3t <3 Ashley10th-Apr-2012 04:29 pm (UTC)
Truly this woman changed my life when i read her book - and reading this now, I've got that feeling of pride again knowing she's out there challenging people to actually think and converse about a topic that most feel is over. I'm not making much sense it seems, but yeah - she's so dead on in writing that the worst betrayals have been from other women in her industry who are in her circle.

Honestly, when we can have the same conversation without even mentioning how someone looked at all - this is going to be around forever.

Patriarchy can bite my size 10 ass.
spiffynamehere 10th-Apr-2012 05:48 pm (UTC)
So now I've brought this up basically everywhere I've seen this linked, but:

"In fact, it’s about boys and men, too, who are equally objectified and ridiculed"

There's nothing wrong with acknowledging that patriarchy and misogyny have a nasty habit of backfiring on men, but (a) no they are not equally objectified, wtf r u doin, and (b) throwing this into an article otherwise about women smacks of "but since it doesn't matter if it happens to women, it affects men, too". Understandable if she's trying to reach as wide an audience as possible, but still leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
mrasaki 10th-Apr-2012 08:01 pm (UTC)
She called into Car Talk on NPR once to ask them how she could make her race car driver husband let her drive. LOL

She's always been one of my favorite actresses. Fiercely intelligent, I love her.
magus_69 10th-Apr-2012 11:11 pm (UTC)
Flawless article is flawless.
roseofjuly 10th-Apr-2012 11:40 pm (UTC)
I especially like her point three - when a woman's face looks different FOURTEEN years later, clearly she has to have messed up her face rather than it being the natural progression of aging.

She minored in women's studies and anthropology at the University of Kentucky (along with others - she had four minors).

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And then the LA Times wrote a dismissive screed.

No one would disagree with Judd that misogyny and sexism continue to exist around the globe -- women are burned with acid in Pakistan, Saudi women aren’t allowed to drive cars, and the Augusta National Golf Club appears to be holding firm to its Neanderthal policy of not inviting women to join the club. But gossip about whether an actress has tinkered with her face or gained some weight doesn’t rise to that level. Nor does it reflect some insidious evil in our society that we ogle, envy or scorn the faces and bodies of people plastered across our television and movie screens.

WTF? What kind of moron would read this and then conclude that the criticism of women's bodies in the media has nothing to do with misogyny? Their argument is that since she decided to become a famous actress and model, she "signed up for this" and thus has no right to complain about people's sexist and mean criticisms of her.

http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/opinion-la/la-ol-ashley-judd-outraged-20120410,0,4572567.story
randomtasks 10th-Apr-2012 11:59 pm (UTC)
Good for her to stand up for herself.

But this post just reminded me of a comment on fb when someone my fb asked for sexist songs to write about for her paper and this one (white cis) guy was all outraged like "why does sexism only refer to women, people are sexist towards men too!"
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