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Father of 30 wants a "break" on child support

12:40 pm - 05/19/2012
And you thought Octomom had her hands full—a Tennessee man who has fathered 30 children is asking the courts for a break on child support.

Desmond Hatchett, 33, of Knoxville has children with 11 different women, reports WREG-TV.

The state already takes half his paycheck and divides it up, which doesn't amount to much when Hatchett is making only minimum wage. Some of the moms receive as little as $1.49 a month. The oldest child is 14 years old.

Hatchett explains how he reached such a critical mass: He had four kids in the same year. Twice.

Back in 2009 when Hatchett was in court to answer charges that many of the mothers were not receiving child support, he had 21 children. At the time, he said he was not going to father any more kids, but he ended up having nine more in the past three years.

The state cannot order Hatchett to stop making babies. He hasn't broken any laws, according to the report.

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What do you think _p? Is he breaking laws by not providing adequate support for his children? How do you think the state should be handling this? What about the moms? Do they bear some of the responsibility for this situation?
bunnika 20th-May-2012 02:56 am (UTC)
women are capabable of protecting themselves against pregnancy (and STDs!)

And there's this thing called reproductive coercion, and this thing called partner abuse, that could prevent a woman from doing either of those things. Hey, hi, I'm one of those women! Totally love having you shame me for having an unplanned pregnancy and an STD from my abuser, thanks so very much for that, really. This also applies to your comment below; it's not my fucking fault my daughter's father is a deadbeat who doesn't care for her or pay child support, and I don't fucking need people like you placing all this blame on the plates of women like me because we had the unmitigated gall to be abused by abusers.

Edited at 2012-05-20 02:57 am (UTC)
kitschaster 20th-May-2012 06:26 am (UTC)
*hugs if wanted* I keep hearing this sentiment here, all this victim-blaming, and it's really pissing me off.
bunnika 20th-May-2012 03:45 pm (UTC)
Thank you. *hugs back* People need to realize that personal accountability can have mitigating factors, and with this sort of pattern from a man, it's unlikely that he is not in some way lying to, manipulating, or abusing some or all of these women.
korppi_ravn 20th-May-2012 02:16 pm (UTC)
Eleven women. And I was trying to look at it objectively, not jump directly to "OH HE'S SCUM and all women everywhere are victims, always, and never have the chance to do anything".

I'm sorry about your situation, and I'm not trying to shame you at all. I totally feel for you, and think the person who did this to you is a wanker, but that doesn't automatically mean all these 11 women went through what you did.
bunnika 20th-May-2012 03:42 pm (UTC)
Eleven women.

Because normally abusers only abuse one person, and don't have a pattern of abuse with multiple partners. OH WAIT.

"OH HE'S SCUM and all women everywhere are victims, always, and never have the chance to do anything".

Yes, because in order to treat women with respect and give them autonomy, you have to shame the shit out of them for making choices you find unwise. Because that's how respect works, clearly.

I'm not trying to shame you at all.

Well thank Ceiling Cat that intent is magic then!

I totally feel for you

If you "felt" at all not just for me but for all women who have been through this sort of thing, you would stop defending your really inappropriate commentary here.

that doesn't automatically mean all these 11 women went through what you did.

And it doesn't mean the didn't, so you should respect them enough to shut the fuck up and stop judging them.
korppi_ravn 20th-May-2012 09:44 pm (UTC)
I feel like you're rationalizating these women's actions based on your own experience.
bunnika 20th-May-2012 09:50 pm (UTC)
Oh noez, I'm showing empathy to other human beings! Clearly I'm the one in the wrong here, not the accusatory dillhole shaming these women on prejudiced assumptions.

It never hurts to err on the side of caution, this case "caution" being that you don't assume every single woman ever except me apparently has a perfectly healthy and non-abusive relationship with the father of their children.

I feel like you're trying to rationalize your ignorant accusations based on your misogynistic assumptions.
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