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Famous gay bar in Los Angeles bans bachelorette parties until marriage becomes equal

8:30 pm - 05/25/2012
Twice voted the best gay bar in the world, The Abbey in Los Angeles has banned all bachelorette parties until marriage becomes equal for gay couples.

David Cooley, founder and president of the bar, told CBS that he gets flooded with requests for bachelorette parties on Fridays and Saturdays. “I just felt after seeing so many bachelorette parties… having our wonderful straight girlfriends having a special time, a special night, having fun that it’s almost a slap in the face to my clientele,” Mr Cooley said.

“Myself being a gay person a kind of slap in my face that I couldn’t have that same experience,” he added. ““So I thought that I would put a ban on bachelorette parties until every person will have the right to have a marriage and be able to marry their loved one.”

Mr Cooley has also released a press statement, which he says intends to confront an “offensive heterosexual tradition [that] flaunts marriage inequality in the face of gays and lesbians”:

Every Friday and Saturday night, we’re flooded with requests from straight girls in penis hats who want to ogle our gogos, dance with the gays and celebrate their pending nuptials. They are completely unaware that the people around them are legally prohibited from getting married. Over the past 22 years, The Abbey has been a place that accepts everyone, gay, straight, lesbian, transgender, bisexual and everything in between. We love our straight girlfriends and they are welcome here, just not for bachelorette parties. It has long been a policy at The Abbey to deny admission to groups in costume, including Bachelorette regalia. Bachelorette parties had previously been allowed inside if they removed their costumes. The Abbey’s Bachelorette Ban comes on the heels of a ban on Gay Marriage in North Carolina and a number of other states across the south. The Abbey encourages other gay-owned and operated establishments to institute their own bans as a sign of solidarity until Marriage is legal everywhere for everyone.

PinkNews.co.uk understands that the bar’s patrons, both gay and straight, have welcomed the ban, saying it was time for those who frequent gay bars to stand up more fully for gay rights.
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intrikate88 26th-May-2012 01:18 am (UTC)
I agree. I have always thought it was gross for straight women (obnoxious bachelorettes or not) to go parading through someone else's safe space, but at the same time, women want their safe spaces too. But that just means that more places need to be created, I suppose, not that groups of women ought to appropriate gay folks' safe spaces.
ohloverx 26th-May-2012 07:39 am (UTC)
This is a lot of the reason why I never went to gay clubs and drag nights even when invited by my gay and lesbian friends. I always wanted to because they seemed to have a lot of fun that they wanted me to join in, but I felt like it wouldn't be right for me as a straight woman to go barging into another group's safe space, y'know? Maybe I could have gone and it been okay because I was being invited, but I just never wanted anyone to feel like I was trying to appropriate their space for myself.
fickery 26th-May-2012 01:27 am (UTC)
That's it, exactly. It was a safe place. But yeah, it wasn't our safe space and we should have recognized that.
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