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Famous gay bar in Los Angeles bans bachelorette parties until marriage becomes equal

8:30 pm - 05/25/2012
Twice voted the best gay bar in the world, The Abbey in Los Angeles has banned all bachelorette parties until marriage becomes equal for gay couples.

David Cooley, founder and president of the bar, told CBS that he gets flooded with requests for bachelorette parties on Fridays and Saturdays. “I just felt after seeing so many bachelorette parties… having our wonderful straight girlfriends having a special time, a special night, having fun that it’s almost a slap in the face to my clientele,” Mr Cooley said.

“Myself being a gay person a kind of slap in my face that I couldn’t have that same experience,” he added. ““So I thought that I would put a ban on bachelorette parties until every person will have the right to have a marriage and be able to marry their loved one.”

Mr Cooley has also released a press statement, which he says intends to confront an “offensive heterosexual tradition [that] flaunts marriage inequality in the face of gays and lesbians”:

Every Friday and Saturday night, we’re flooded with requests from straight girls in penis hats who want to ogle our gogos, dance with the gays and celebrate their pending nuptials. They are completely unaware that the people around them are legally prohibited from getting married. Over the past 22 years, The Abbey has been a place that accepts everyone, gay, straight, lesbian, transgender, bisexual and everything in between. We love our straight girlfriends and they are welcome here, just not for bachelorette parties. It has long been a policy at The Abbey to deny admission to groups in costume, including Bachelorette regalia. Bachelorette parties had previously been allowed inside if they removed their costumes. The Abbey’s Bachelorette Ban comes on the heels of a ban on Gay Marriage in North Carolina and a number of other states across the south. The Abbey encourages other gay-owned and operated establishments to institute their own bans as a sign of solidarity until Marriage is legal everywhere for everyone.

PinkNews.co.uk understands that the bar’s patrons, both gay and straight, have welcomed the ban, saying it was time for those who frequent gay bars to stand up more fully for gay rights.
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redstar826 26th-May-2012 01:32 am (UTC)
yeah. And in my experience, some of the same women who make a big deal about how cool it is to have gay male friends can be pretty damned homophobic when it comes to queer women.
bestdaywelived 26th-May-2012 05:11 am (UTC)
Yep. I've run into far too many of these people. (One of my 2 law school best friends is a lesbian, and far too many of my straight friends are shocked that I spend time alone with her.)

It's gross. It's gross that you are assuming that every lesbian wants to fuck you and can't control themselves around straight girls and it's even grosser that you are so afraid that another woman might make a pass at you that you'll be rude to lesbians for nothing.
brittlesmile 26th-May-2012 10:19 am (UTC)
Yup. Queer woman here & I run into these sort of girls all the fucking time. To the point where now I'm like "Oh, you have a 'gay best friend'? Well now you also have an angry dyke enemy."
hashishinahooka 26th-May-2012 06:18 pm (UTC)
But I have a gay best friend and a load of lesbian friends. :(


Okay, I'm not going to be that obtuse. I didn't realize this was how things were going on, but sadly, not surprised either.
brittlesmile 26th-May-2012 06:52 pm (UTC)
I mean, I'm sure you know this, but the problem isn't people who genuinely have queer friends. The problem is people who have 'gay best friends' that they treat more like accessories than people (ie: their 'gay best friend' isn't their best friend, who happens to be gay, but just the gay person they know the best). And frankly these folks don't really ever challenge society's models of gayness. Therefor gay men are sassy shopping pals and queer women... well, we're just creepy ugly people who ~must~ be hitting on them all the time.


Ugh, sorry. I just have a lot of feels about this.
hashishinahooka 26th-May-2012 07:03 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I regretted the comment after I made it, and I apologize.

That's incredibly shitty behavior and absolutely no different from straight men who talk about loving lesbians but dis gay men, but somehow I bet they think it is because, "OMG I LOVE GAY MEN."

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