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The sex-change sweethearts: How a pageant princess and colonel's son…

8:14 am - 11/11/2012
The sex-change sweethearts: How a pageant princess and colonel's son fell in love after BOTH had transgender treatment

To the casual observer, this young couple look just like any other teenagers in love.

But pretty Katie Hill and her boyfriend Arin Andrews share a unique bond - they were both born as the opposite sex.

Katie, 18, spent the first 15 years of her life as Luke, son of a Marine colonel, while Arin, 16, was born a girl called Emerald who excelled at ballet dancing and won beauty contests.

Both struggled with their sexuality all through their childhoods and were teased and bullied but their lives were changed when they both began hormone therapy and later met at a trans support group in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and instantly fell in love.

Katie said: 'All I saw was a handsome guy. We're perfect for each other because we both had the same troubles growing up.

'We're both size five, so we even swap our old clothes our mum's bought us but we hated.

'We look so convincing as a boy and a girl, nobody even notices now. We secretly feel so good about it because it's the way we've always wanted to be seen.'

High-school student Arin undergoes testosterone shots to give him the more masculine shape he's craved his whole life.

Meanwhile high-school graduate Katie, 18, has finished her female hormone course - oestrogen shots - which helped her to develop natural breasts with no silicone implants.

Katie, who has legally been a female since she was 15, believes she was born with naturally high levels of oestrogen and was teased as a boy throughout school for having small AA-cup breasts.

An anonymous donor was so touched by her story they paid for her £25,000 ($40,000) gender reassignment surgery just four days after her 18th birthday on May 16, 2012.

Katie added: 'Even from age three, I knew deep down I wanted to be a girl. All I wanted was to play with dolls. I hated my boy body and never felt right in it.

'I kept my feelings a total secret growing up and was petrified of what people in our tiny Christian town would say. Now Arin and I can share any problems we face together.'

Arin recalls a similar experience and says he knew he was a boy inside from his first day at school, aged just five.

'The teachers separated the girls and boys into separate lines for a game,' he said. 'I didn't understand why they asked me to stand with the girls.

'Girly things didn't interest me, but I was worried what people would think if I said I wanted to be a boy, so I kept it secret.'

Arin's mother Denise, 41, encouraged him to compete in local pageant contests and he became an accomplished female ballet and clogging dancer.

But Arin's secret love was riding motocross bikes with his father Mitch, 42, and doing triathlons and rock-climbing.

'Mum and dad argued when my motocross clashed with my dance schedule,' he said. 'But at age 11, mum gave up. She couldn't win. But I'll never hold it against her. She was just proud of her only daughter.'

Mrs Andrews now supports Arin by helping with his testosterone shots and has vowed to help him pay for breast removal surgery if he can raise half of the £3770 ($6,000) costs himself.

For the time being, Arin hides his chest by 'binding' - tight strapping around the torso use by transgender females-to-males.

Even Arin's little brother Wesley, 11, has even started calling Arin his 'big brother'. 'It makes me so proud,' said Arin.

Arin's determination to live his life as a male comes after years of 'humiliating' bullying throughout school.

'It was horrible,' said Arin. 'I looked like a pretty girl but acted and walked like a boy.

'Everyone started calling me a lesbian. It felt so humiliating. I didn't feel gay at all.

'I started having suicidal thoughts and told my parents I felt confused, but I didn't even know transgender people existed, so it didn't come up.

'They said it was OK to be gay, but put me into therapy for my depression and to help with my confusion. My feelings of being a boy sounded so stupid I didn't even say it in therapy.

'Then a student at my school, a Christian school, told the teacher's office about a girl I was dating.

'They kicked me out because it was a religious school, even though I was a top pupil.

'I started another school and things have been better there. But everything changed when I met Katie.'

Arin realised he wasn't alone after reading about Katie's transition from male to female in their local newspaper.

'All her loneliness and confusion over feeling she was the opposite gender all her life sounded exactly like me,' added Arin.

'It was the moment I first had an explanation for my feelings. I realised I was 'trans' too. I finally had an answer after years of confusion.'

The pair eventually met in a local trans support group and hit it off.

'She was beautiful and looked just like Megan Fox,' said Arin.

'I longed to know who she was and eventually plucked up the courage to do the guy thing and ask for her number.

'She said yes and we started seeing each other.'

Katie had only learned what 'transgender' meant by browsing the internet when she was 15.

'I'd been so unhappy growing up,' she said.

'As I got older it got worse and I couldn't help being really girly with a high-pitched voice and high cheekbones.'

Katie's mother Jazzlyn, 44, and father Randy, 58, a Lieutenant Colonel in the United States Marine Corps, struggled to deal with their son's confused feelings at first.

'My parents were scared stiff and put me through 15 therapist to try and cure my depression,' said Katie. 'None helped because nobody suggested I was trans and I didn't know what it was.

'When I was 15 I found the word 'transgender' while desperately searching the internet and instantly knew it was me.

'Mum was so terrified of losing me.

'I'd once tried to end my life, so she agreed to help me. I owe her everything.

'We made a list of all the things I wanted to do, like wearing bras and panties, getting hormone therapy and maybe one day having gender realignment surgery.

'My brothers and even my grandma Judy were so accepting I was shocked.

'Dad was upset at first because he felt like he was losing his first son.

'Over time he's learned to accept me and now calls me his "daughter", which makes me smile.'

The couple are speaking out about their experience to help raise awareness of trans issues.

'More needs to be done to let people know about transgender issues,' said Katie.

'We both spent years in the wilderness and felt so alone.

'Our parents didn't know how to help because none of us knew being trans was possible.

'Nobody should have to go through what we did.'

Source includes photos

Surprisingly fail-free for an article in the Daily Mail; they even got the pronouns right. It's a bit tabloid-esque, but I think it's good to have more trans* news like this.
the_physicist 12th-Nov-2012 12:25 am (UTC)
very sweet :)
tabaqui 12th-Nov-2012 12:57 am (UTC)
Good on them! They're adorable together, and i'm so glad they have supportive families. It *is* a bit 'tabloidesque' but it's still a good story.
romp 12th-Nov-2012 01:09 am (UTC)
sweet story!

wrestlingdog 12th-Nov-2012 01:38 am (UTC)
myrrhmade 12th-Nov-2012 02:40 am (UTC)
Dying from cute!
msloserrific 12th-Nov-2012 03:30 am (UTC)
Came in here to post about how cute this picture was!
lil_insanity 12th-Nov-2012 01:13 am (UTC)
I love human interest stories that show trans* people as regular people. The headline is a bit creepy (sex-change sweethearts?), but I think it's awesome when trans* people are willing to put their stories forward like this so cis people can be educated.
wrestlingdog 12th-Nov-2012 01:57 am (UTC)

I seriously wish them all the best.
moonshaz 12th-Nov-2012 03:11 am (UTC)
So adorable!!!!
thedorkygirl 12th-Nov-2012 03:28 am (UTC)
I loved this article! The video at the end was great.
sophiaserpentia 12th-Nov-2012 03:50 am (UTC)
Yay for them! They look happy. :)

The text of the article is fairly sympathetic, though I think the editor must have been less so, given the terrible trans tropes that make their way in around the margins. First there's the awful headline and then there's lots of "before and after" pictures to make sure you understand that *gasp* these people changed their sex!
kyra_neko_rei 12th-Nov-2012 03:51 am (UTC)
I'd really love to see a story like this where the writers don't feel the need to justify a person's trans* status by going, "See? He likes boy things!" and "She always loved girl things."

That said, I'm glad they've found each other and are happy and I wish them the best.
cenori 12th-Nov-2012 04:19 am (UTC)
I thought Katie looked familiar, and I was right -- here's an article about her (and Arin) that was posted in June! http://ontd-political.livejournal.com/9716351.html
schmanda 12th-Nov-2012 04:27 am (UTC)
I posted a Tulsa World series about Katie Hill back in June. Without reservation, I'll say her story is really one of the most life-affirming things I've read (or think I will read) all year.
soundczech 12th-Nov-2012 05:31 pm (UTC)
i was about to ask if this was the same couple because their story sounded so familiar
nepthys_12 12th-Nov-2012 06:57 am (UTC)
They are so adorable and brave.
mephisto5 12th-Nov-2012 07:51 am (UTC)
*Gets out my trans* article bingo card*

"Sex-change": Tick!

Assigned names: Tick!

DAILY MAIL BONUS SQUARE: creepy focus on young woman's breasts: Tick!

'The child who simply knew' trope: Tick!

Gender stereotyping: Tick!

Oh- and a very linear narrative of transitioning that doesn't acknowledge non binary or more convoluted routes: Tick!

This article's a lot better than The Mail would have published even ten years ago, but there's still some failings, especially with the more general tendency to see transition as simple A->B with no doubts, reversals, detransitions, retransitions and/or balancing acts (e.g. enough hormone therapy for certain changes, but stopping it before all of them come through) for non-binary folk to name but a few of the ways in which trans* stories vary.

There's a huge variety of trans* stories out there, especially if you don't limit yourself to white/middle class/able bodied/straight/binary identified folk, but pretty much the only one that's ever told by the media is a variant of 'I always knew because I wanted to play with x toy and you can tell I'm a 'real' trans* person because I'm going to work through this checklist of purchasing y clothes and having z medical interventions.' And yes, some people's transitions are like that, but a hell of a lot aren't.
teacup_werewolf 12th-Nov-2012 06:15 pm (UTC)
Seriously thank you for this comment.

The article is cute, but there is something about it that is really rubbing me the wrong way. IDK but I think you're right with idea that articles like these portray transitioning and trans* identity as something so simple and linear. I never "just knew" I was a boy, I didn't figure that out until much much later in my life. It frustrates me for some reason that either articles over simplify trans* identity or fetishist it.
fm_gatekeeper 14th-Nov-2012 01:57 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I'm side-eying the "fail free" comment tbh because this article is full of fail in my opinion.
lonely_hour 12th-Nov-2012 11:00 pm (UTC)
;^; i'm so happy for them!
and yes total brownie points for no pronoun fail.
paksenarrion2 14th-Nov-2012 05:35 am (UTC)
There are some troubling things that other have pointed out but yes. Big brownie points for no pronoun fail.

And I am happy for both of them.
fm_gatekeeper 14th-Nov-2012 01:55 pm (UTC)
I am probably an overly cynical douchebag but I really fucking hate stories like this.

SURPRISE! Trans people have relationships. Sometimes with each other.

Yeah, well, no shit. My partner and I are both on the trans spectrum and no one’s putting us in the news. This is cute but it also shouldn’t be treated like news and it would be nice if the article didn’t sensationalize it like the media did the whole ~pregnant man~ thing a while back. If their actual purpose is to spread awareness of this sort of thing, maybe they could make some mention of the fact that trans people being in relationships/trans men getting pregnant is actually pretty damn normal?

But of course they don't. Because I’m not a fucking person in a perfectly normal fucking relationship, I’m a thing to gawk at.
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