The Advocate a premiere LGBT news magazine has come under pressure from trans activists and allies after it referred to a couple who were legally married in New York as a "same-sex" couple. In the article N.Y. Unwittingly Marries "Same-Sex" Couple, the couple Hakim Nelson and Jason Stenson were given a marriage license because the clerk was unaware of the birth gender of Nelson who now goes by Kimah.
The Advocate referred to this historic story as "New York's first legal same-sex marriage" but the problem is that neither Kimah nor Jason identify as gay. Jason identifies as straight and Kimah is a trans woman. Kimah hopes to undergo sex re-assignment surgery in the future, but regardless of her current status as pre, post or non-op we must be sensitive to the gender pronouns she chooses for herself.
Note: The Advocate has since made edits to this story to properly reflect the gender identity of Kimah.
Please tell The Advocate that it isn't enough to call yourself an LGBT magazine, in the future it must be inclusive of gender variant folks and know how to properly report on them.
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This is a huge mistake that needs to be address. And the fact that it comes from The Advocate is really huge blow to the trans community. If you can spare the time, please help e-mailing The Advocate to correct the aforementioned article so it is right.
Here is an additional article from Questioning Transphobia about trans-ignorance being a form of transphobia. Please read if you are interested or don't know much about transsexuality.
Seriously? I understand the distinction being made there between outright wishing us violence and ignorance, but it’s not one that’s ultimately sustainable. Why? Violence against trans bodies is maintained by ignorance.
Ignorance is what fuels the vast majority of transphobia, not necessarily outright hatred. It’s what makes it hard for us to get work, what leaves us with few options to get by. Combined with fear, it fuels the bathroom panic.
Ignorance is what makes it hard to get decent medical care. When a doctor doesn’t know how to treat you, I’m sorry that’s a fucking problem. When a housing shelter doesn’t have a policy for people like you so you “just happen” to get put into your assigned sex to be put at risk of violence and rape, that’s a problem. Indeed, it’s not overstating the case to say that ignorance directly contributes to our deaths.
Ignorance is what tires us out, what saps our energy by making us answer the same question with every new person, every new institution. What makes us fight the same battles, over and over so we don’t have the energy to take care of ourselves.
The one thing ignorance is not is innocent, it is about having the power not to know and not to care.. and we simply can’t afford to be naive enough to think otherwise.
ETA. As the debate thread here shows, it's a hard line to draw on whether or not ignorance IS phobia. Ignorance may certainly lead to phobia but people *can* be informed and be not phobic of something.
Thank you for your time.