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INFO POST! ISSUES AFFECTING WOC: NATURAL HAIR & YOU

9:24 am - 10/30/2011
Info posts may contain triggering elements, so please be mindful of the topic and read at your own discretion. Perhaps minor racism triggers, but I think this post ought to be okay for everyone.

These posts are a "safe space" to ask questions you might otherwise be too shy to. Please do not reply to people with "Plz Google" or "educate yourself". Everyone should enter them with a learn and teach mindset (in that order). WITH THAT SAID, HOWEVER, please remain mindful of your questions and phrasing, be open-minded, learn, and know when to be quiet. If you are flippant with your ignorance, no one will not stop angered members from telling you about yourself.

For current natural curlies, lovelies with locs, transitioners, hopefuls, and folks who are just plain curious! This post is enormous.





Tamara Winfrey Harris tells a story of being in a chain restaurant with her husband when their names were called for a table.

Just as the couple rose to go, a middle-aged white woman standing nearby reached out swiftly to touch Winfrey Harris's hair which at the time was styled in natural twists.

"She missed by mere seconds, she was actually going to grab my hair as I walked past her," recalled Winfrey Harris who runs the blog What Tami Said. "I turned around and she said, 'Oh, your hair is neat.' It just floored me because who does that, just reaches out and touches strangers?"

It's a common tale shared by women of color whose natural hair can attract stares, curiosity, comments and the occasional stranger who desires to reach out and touch.

The reaction to such fondling can range from amusement to outrage over the invasion of personal space.

The discussion surrounding it is often rooted in race relations.

Blogger Los Angelista explained her response to a woman's incredulous "Are you serious, I can't touch your hair?" by writing that no she couldn't, "Because my black ancestors may have been your ancestors' property, and had to smile while they got touched in ways they didn't want to, but I am not YOUR property and never will be so you'd best move your hand away from me."

"Natural hair" for black women is, by definition, hair that is not processed and not chemically altered. Straightened hair is often viewed as easier to care for and more attractive.



Rather than use chemical straighteners known as relaxers (also sometimes called "creamy crack" for both the damage it can do to black hair as well as the inability of some women to live without it) some women wear their hair in its natural state.

Natural hair can be described as curly, kinky, wavy, or -- the sometimes dreaded and considered by some to be an offensive word -- nappy.

Black hair fuels a more than billion-dollar industry which includes products, weaves, and wigs that can enable African-American women to change up their styles at a whim. Tons of websites, blogs, books and videos about natural hair exist to educate those desiring to "go natural."



The style has been embraced for reasons of fashion, politics and simply by those unwilling to spend the time and money to maintain their chemically processed hair.

So why the continuing fascination with natural hair, given that so many women of color are now rocking the style and have been for years?

Keneesha Hudson said that despite the growing number of women embracing their natural hair texture, it's still considered unique.



Hudson is the owner/founder of Urbanbella, a company in Atlanta that specializes in helping women embrace their natural hair texture. She first went natural in 2002 when she did the "big chop" (cutting all of her processed hair off) so she could have the freedom to swim, she said, and today she sports a thick mane of natural curls.

"For the longest time we black women have been wearing our hair chemically straightened to a point where most of us really don't know what our natural hair looks like," Hudson said. "There's a generation of us who have never even seen our hair in any form but straight except for baby pictures."

Visitors to her salon will sometimes ask to touch her hair to establish that it is actually all hers and not a wig or a weave, she said, while still others are strangers who "sneak and touch it."



"We love to go to the football games, and there's a group of guys that sit behind us," Hudson said. "One week, towards the end of the season, one of the guys in cheering just kind of laid his hands on my head like 'Yeah!' I said 'That has nothing to do with cheering for the game,' but I just find those little moments happen a lot."

In 2008, Renee Martin wrote "Can I Touch Your Hair? Black Women and The Petting Zoo" for her blog Womanist Musings and said she continues to get e-mails from women thanking her for her post and relaying their personal experiences about their hair being touched.



Some white women who responded, Martin said, shared their stories of their own hair being touched in countries populated by people of color. They chalked it up to natural curiosity and accused Martin of being too sensitive, she said.

But she says she doesn't think the crux of the issue has to do with curiosity.



"I think it's the idea that they have the right to possess black women and they will take any excuse they can to jump over the border, whether it's policing our behavior or policing our hair," Martin said. "I think it's about ownership of black bodies more than it has to actually do with hair."

Actress Issa Rae, star/creator of the web series "The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl," said she has been natural all of her life. She had cut her hair and worked the short afro into the character, who was heartbroken and starting over.

Rae has endured the comments of "Eww, why is your hair like that? Why are you trying to go back to slavery?" from other African-Americans and says that, growing up, she had requests to touch her hair from both blacks and whites.



The touching doesn't bother her as much as "when they ask stupid questions to make me feel like my hair is alien hair."

"I had someone ask me if I wear my hair like this to honor my ancestors, and that was funny to me," she said. "This is not for Kunta [Kinte]."



Rae notes that in the 1970s, there was an afro movement for a while, but it died down in the 1980s. There are quite a few layers when it comes to discussions about black hair, from length to texture, and hair is very much tied to the culture, she said.

"Hair is just a huge component of blackness, so it's not going to go away," she said.

Tia Mosley, 29, went natural at the age of 12 when she refused to get her hair relaxed anymore. The inquisitiveness about her 'do is as natural as the hair on her head, she said.



"People want to touch my hair all the time and I have no problem with it," she said. "I have a problem with the touching and the attempt to touch without asking."

Mosley said that when she used to work at a predominantly white theater company in northern Georgia, her hair was viewed as exotic and stirred up a great deal of interest.

"They thought I was from the islands and they had lots of questions about my hair," she said laughing. "I would say 'No, I'm from the island of Houston, Texas."



Source - also features video


I added pictures in the main article to get people to read it but I know the real reason y'all were so thirsty for this post....

OP Intro: Now most of you who have been graced with 3b hair and up know that “hair tips” in most mainstream magazines have nothing to do with us. When they do bother to make a (bare minimum) effort, they reference photographs of women who are wearing wigs, weaves, have chemical relaxers, or are completely bald. They use fake/photoshopped hair as a reference point for hair health (who do they think they're fooling??) and they recommend products that were clearly not designed for our hair type. They don't even talk about hair lotions, oils, or any other kind of product that would add moisture to drying hair, just "sheen spray" or "anti-frizz" serum. Gee thanks! Their standard for curls is “hair like Hermione”. They write about our natural hair as though it's unmanagable unless it's straight (false, false, false) In fact, it's actually quite difficult to find mainstream articles that don’t have negative undertones about kinky hair, if not outright boldly declaring its undesirability. Well, in recent years more and more black women are feeling as though they don't need to "hide" their hair anymore! Go behind the cut to see the way black women are redefining their culture through hair care!



Care and Products

Let’s start with the basics… what hair type are you?

View enormous chart here!



It’s okay if you still can’t tell what your hair type is after looking at these charts, my type seems to vary between 3f and 4c depending on length, dryness (dry hair = DOOM AND GLOOM), humidity and its overall mood (yes, my hair has a personality and that is “rude and angry”; it does not like to be petted and sniffed at the bank).

Healthy Ingredients

For the most part the ingredients that work best for black, or any type of hair for that matter, come from good ol’ Mother Earth. So whether you’re relaxed or natural, your products shouldn’t be too terribly hard to pronounce. The next time you’re “navigating the beauty aisles” look for these ingredients:

Biotin: This vitamin promotes the growth of cells that reproduce quickly, like nails, skin, and hair. They actually sell biotin in a vitamin supplement form.

Folic Acid: Believe it or not this is another B vitamin you need to have in your medicine cabinet or under your sink. (Don’t let the F in Folic fool you- it’s B9.) This vitamin also works on the cell level. It helps your body use and create protein, which we’ll learn later is very important for the hair.


Shea Butter: Has anyone else noticed how shea butter seems to be in everything these days? I remember when it was novel to see vendors selling it on the street, now it’s gone mainstream. And rightly so, this magical, motherland cream cures dryness of scalp and hair, adding a sheen to it. It’s easily absorbed and protects hair from the elements.

The Oils: castor, coconut, and peppermint: With the exception of castor these oils sound delicious. Yup the same flavors that excite your tastebuds actually work to stimulate your scalp and nourish your hair.

Avocado/Avocado oil [is] packed with vitamins A, D, E, and contains more potassium than bananas. Easily absorbed into the skin, avocado oil is a quick way to get multiple nutrients onto your scalp for improved hair growth.

Castor oil prevents hair loss, moisturizes and has been said to contribute to your hair’s overall thickness.

Coconut oil is the perfect moisturizer for your hair, especially when it’s damp. Remember not to overdo a good thing. Even though it smells heavenly moderation is still key.


Extra Virgin Olive Oil (EVOO) is an emollient that seals and softens the hair. The “extra virgin” on a label means it was produced using only physical means (no machines involved) and has no chemical treatment to alter it. Use it as a quick pre-shampoo or a deep conditioner.

Peppermint oil balances the ph in your hair and scalp, so whether you suffer from hair that’s too dry or too oily, the peppermint oil will get you where you need to go to grow. It also stimulates and opens the pores in the scalp.

Tea tree oil [has] potent antiseptic, antibacterial and anti-fungal properties [and] is a soothing remedy to a dry scalp. It is an essential (concentrated) oil, so a little goes a VERY long way. Over-application of a potent essential oil may actually cause irritation.

Panthenol: Here’s yet another form of vitamin B. (Notice a pattern?) This one binds to the hair and extracts moisture from the hair.

Keratin: This is a type of protein found in hair, skin, and nails. As we know much of our hair, nails, and skin are dead but these dead cells protect the newly grown ones underneath. The thicker the layer of fresh keratin the faster your hair (and nails) will grow.


Eggs: This easily accessible food restores protein to the hair. Like keratin the proteins strengthen the hair. You can put raw eggs directly on your hair and use it as conditioner.

Aloe Vera Juice/Gel: Aloe vera adds true moisture to the hair. It is actually absorbed into the hair strand. Try it as a daily moisturizing spritz!

Vegetable Glycerin: Natural Hair products containing vegetable glycerine act as strong humectants—meaning, they attract and bind water to themselves. Vegetable glycerine also creates a layer of oil over the hair strand, thus aiding in the retention of moisture. Try combining it with aloe vera juice to create an even better moisture spritz!

Jojoba Extract: Jojoba is another humectant perfect for adding to damaged ends.

Source and Source


Hair Witchery

Creating your own hair crockery takes time, space, and (for some ingredients) money. But you can make lots of easy home conditioners, cleaners, and moisturizers out of ingredients you probably already have.


Apple Cider Vinegar Rinse

Hair Rinses
Hair Treatment
Leave-In Conditioner

Natural Hair Cookbook



Unhealthy Ingredients
Petroleum only coats the hair and scalp, and creates the illusion of moisture and shine. This coating also prevents moisture from getting in and attracts dirt and dust.

Alcohol is the main ingredient in many gels, which dries the hair out severely.

Sodium Lauryl or Laureth Sulfate is a harsh cleanser found in most shampoos. It strips the hair of moisture. To combat this, try diluting your shampoo by filling a spray bottle with half distilled water and half shampoo. Be sure to use a moisturizing conditioner afterward. You can also opt to use the no-poo method.

Mineral Oil should be avoided in both hair and skin products as it coats and acts in the same manner as petroleum.

Silicones or Cones are added to conditioners to add sheen to the hair. Silicones coat the hair over time, leaving it dull and lifeless. It also prevents other products from penetrating the hair shaft, thus keeping moisture out. Be sure to check your conditioner for this ingredient.

Protein can dry the hair out, which may lead to breakage. Be careful with protein treatments, and always follow up with a deep moisturizing conditioner.

Glycerin in the wrong climate can dry out your hair as well. Glycerin works well with humidity but may do more harm than good in drier climates.

Avoid beeswax and butters for locs. There is a misconception that products such as beeswax help the hair to loc; however, hair locs simply because it is not combed and products do not speed up the process. Your hair will loc in due time, and though beeswax may aid in controlling the "fuzzies" more so than other products, just allow and embrace this stage. Your locs will thank you. Opt for lighter products for re-twisting, like aloe vera gel or a spritz of distilled water and your favorite carrier oil (jojoba, sweet almond, etc) to keep your locs free of build up.

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Handy Weaponry

Tools:

Wide tooth comb


Rat tail Comb


Soft Bristle Brush


Hair Shears


Microfiber towel


Clips


Everyone's favorite accessory, I know!


Satin Cap & Scarf
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Essentials tools for locs


OP Note: Natural hair care, I've found, is still a pretty underground topic. The community is exploding right now (I started two years ago and I've noticed a recent surge in the number of friends I have making the transition) but in terms of mainstream visibility we're still very much ignored. Also, a surprising number of people will assume that because you wear your hair natural, and you don't look like you came from a Tim Burton movie, that you're mixed (even if every visible feature about you would point to the contrary) and thus don't need ~alternative instructions~ on how to care for your hair.


What You Need to Know About Chemical Relaxers

Hair breakage, hair thinning, lack of hair growth, scalp irritation, scalp damage, hair loss. These are just some of the complaints from many who experience problems due to the misuse of chemical hair relaxers. In fact, the FDA lists hair straighteners and hair dyes among its top consumer complaint areas. Yet, in so many stores around the country, chemicals are available for everyone to use, without much instruction, a powerful process which transforms the basic chemical makeup of the hair strand. Before beginning any hair treatment, especially one that introduces chemicals to your hair, you owe it to yourself to be well informed. Armed with a better understanding of this process, you will be able to make good decisions with regard to hair and scalp care.

If you have naturally tightly curled hair you have the option of styling it using products specifically designed for your hair type as it is, or the option to straighten the hair which opens up further hair styles to be available to you. However, chemically straightening the hair should be carefully thought out and thoroughly studied. We have compiled essential information on chemical hair relaxers and urge you to read the following carefully and, if not for yourself, share it with a friend.

His name was Garrett Augustus Morgan and he was born the seventh of eleven children of former slaves. He is best known for his invention of the automatic traffic signal and gas mask. But it was around 1910 that he stumbled upon what would become his contribution to the hair care products industry and what would pave the way for several other entrepreneurs and manufacturers over the next hundred years.

While working in a sewing machine repair shop attempting to invent a new lubricating liquid for the machine needle, it is widely believed that Morgan wiped his hands on a wool cloth, returned the next day, found the woolly texture of the cloth had “smoothed out”, and set out to find how the liquid chemical had changed the texture as it had. He experimented on an Airedale dog, known for their curly textured hair, and the effect was successfully duplicated.

Morgan then tried his lubricating liquid invention on himself, called it a “hair refining cream”, and thus patented the first chemical hair straightener. He founded a personal grooming products company which included hair dying ointments, curved-tooth pressing combs, shampoo, hair pressing gloss, and the one that started it all: the “G.A. Morgan's Hair Refiner Cream” (advertised to “Positively Straighten Hair in 15 Minutes”).

Read more at the source!

Media/Internet Resources

Featured Hair Vlogs and Other Recs


AFRICANEXPORT - a hair savante; also hilarious
BlackIzBeautyful - of KinkyCurlyCoilyMe
BlackOnyx
elliptic2012 - for locs


KimmayTube - her advice should be in science books, not even kidding


Naptural85 - I am always slain with jealousy at the fabulousness of her hair; when I make my millions I'm employing her as my on-hand hair expert fyi (I promise to pay well and provide full benefits)
Nikkiemae2003
nikkimo75 - for locs; she doesn't update anymore due but her vids are still great
prettypoison127 - loc care and maintenance
Shawnta715 - transitions between locs and natural hair; has how-to vids on how to take locs out as well
Taren916

Hair Blogs
Black Girl with Long Hair
Black Women, Natural Hairstyles - WARNING: you probably won't have the hair skillz to execute like 98% of the stuff here (I, certainly, do not) but the pics are fun and sometimes it's fun to experiment
CollegeCurlies
Curly Nikki
Diary of a Kinky Curly Transitioner
Hairspiration
Kinky Curly Coily Me
Chocolate Hair/Vanilla Care - a white couple's transracial adoption results in a blog about their journey learning to care for their daughter's natural hair; don't overlook this blog, the mom has come up with some amazing styles for "Boo"
Happy Girl Hair - a mom of twins with drastically different hair types; also has great general care tips in the FAQ section
Little Brown Notebook
Moptop Maven - inactive because of illness, but she has great care tips!
NappturalCaramel
Naptural85 - the Hair Queen's blog
The Natural Haven
Natural Selection Blog
Precious Curls

Other
Going Natural
Motown Girl
Nappturality
Naturally Curly
TyteCurl - includes care for locs

Shopping
Afroveda
Bee Mine Products
Blended Beauty
Burt's Bees
Carol's Daughter
Curl Mart
Curlz
From Nature With Love - sells raw products
It's Perfectly Natural - a woman sells her (pricey) homemade potions online
Komaza Care
LUV Naturals
Miss Jessie's - EEP! @ the prices but I use this stuff and it's awesome
Ouidad
Oyin Handmade
Target
Terressentials - apparently makes the only USDA Certified Organic hair wash in the United States... listen to Queen Naptural Hair herself talk about it...



You can also buy your own raw products at grocery stores, farmer's marketsl, organic food markets to mix up your own homemade hair potions!

Pictures
Natural Hair Everything, Fuck Yeah Natural Hair, le coil, Kinky & Curly Unite, Black Girls Rock

Additional Links
Afro-textured Hair - brought to you by Wikipedia
Natural or Relaxed?: The Black Women’s Dilemma


Please offer any additional hair tips, styles, PICTURES, products, and techniques you use to care for your hair! Also anecdata about your own hair transition journeys, big chops, experiences with family/friends/colleagues/etc. or anything else that may be helpful for us currently in the journey and those unsure if pursuing natural hair is the right option for them.


Coming Soon (not in order): Women's health*, mental health*, LGBTQI issues*, WOC Issues*, POC Issues*, 2011 Winter Community Service, homelessness, medical marijuana, healthy eating (with budgets considered) and many more! Suggestions are welcome!
* planned to be an ongoing series

I understand that some of you are eager to assist with these posts, and I'm happy to accept! The topics I'll probably need the most help with will be topics in the health categories (especially mental health) and the LGBTQI series, but if anyone has an awesome source or tidbit of info they'd like to share on any topic, I'm more than willing to accept that contribution, with credit to your effort.

With many topics I understand that privacy may be a concern for some of you, and I will honor that. If you would not like for your username to be listed in the credits, just say so at any time prior to the post going up and I'll be sure to list you as unnamed.

If you'd like to help out with any topic, PM me.
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starsinshapes 30th-Oct-2011 04:37 pm (UTC)
Thanks for this!

For me, it's always other black women that want to touch my hair. And some just do without asking. I've only ever encounter one white woman who's done so. Either way, it's so awkward.

And I need to find away to do my hair for when winter comes. I usually wet it to get the bedhead out and then put a moisturizer in it, but it freezes while I wait for the bus. I don't like the separate and twist method because it doesnt come out the way I want it.
starsinshapes 30th-Oct-2011 05:13 pm (UTC)
And it seems I'm between a 3C and 4A
mingemonster 30th-Oct-2011 04:44 pm (UTC)
Eggs are awesome to have in your hair, but remember to only use the yolk, and to only use cold water, or you will end up with a head full of scrambled egg.
mingemonster 30th-Oct-2011 04:49 pm (UTC)
also! egg yolk will lather if you spray some water in it, so if you're going no-poo and you miss the lather you can just use that. put eggs yolks in a bowl, add water (or whatever. i used honey+water and whisked it a bit), wet your hair, apply it like shampoo and rinse it with cold water
arisma 30th-Oct-2011 04:45 pm (UTC)
This post is fucking amazing.
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This comm was the first place I ever heard of the random hair touching thing. I absolutely believe it goes on but it still blows my fucking mind that people think that's ok. Did I see a mention of sniffing going on too? Really? Wow. What exactly are they hoping to detect?

I actually just sent out some experimental homemade hair care my cousin requested for she and her little girl and I'm mega psyched that everything in it is on the good stuff list. Double excited for them to try it now.
acmeeoy 30th-Oct-2011 05:11 pm (UTC)
Yup. I'm autistic, so I'm antsy about touching people even through the shaking hands process. I can't comprehend invading a stranger's personal space.
kitanabychoice anecdata tiems!30th-Oct-2011 04:48 pm (UTC)
First, I'm gonna say that I love this post forever and ever amen. All of the women are *beautiful*.

Second, my default icon is myself wearing a wig and I really need to update it but anyway. It's oooold.

Third: I don't get a lot of people who want to touch my hair when it's loose, but all of my close friends love "squishing" my poof. They think it's so cute and soft. They were my support when I first decided to transition. Right now, I've been keeping my hair in kinky twists because it's easier for me to deal with since my life is getting hectic.

Right now I use tea tree oil and shea butter oil to moisturize, and I shampoo and condition with Carol's Daughter brand products. They're in stock at my local Sephora so I don't have to go out of my way to find them.



above, my dorky self in kinky twists.
msloserrific Re: anecdata tiems!30th-Oct-2011 05:19 pm (UTC)
You and your hair are beautiful! <3
booksforlunch 30th-Oct-2011 04:51 pm (UTC)
HOLY MOLY!

Bookmarked for later use (i.e. after writing 26 pages of assignment until ermm ... tomorrow morning. I know, I know.)

I seem to be one of the type-3s. Which bugs me, because I'm a low-maintenance fan, so a hairstyle that means care to at least look decent is not my favorite. So I usually go for a simple braid or a tight bun when the hair is still wet, so that I have as little fly-away hair as possible and can avoid knots the next morning.

But ever since seeing Antonia Thomas on Misfits, I kinda want my hair to be done up like hers. So this post is a blessing for someone who thinks about trying out more with her hair. So, thanks! :D
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lone_concertina 30th-Oct-2011 04:58 pm (UTC)
My friend went natural early this year and swears by the b-complex vitamin she takes every day. You can buy a bottle of 100 for like $5 at most grocery stores.
roseofjuly TRANSITIONING STORIES HERE PLZ30th-Oct-2011 04:59 pm (UTC)
I'm a black woman with chemically relaxed hair.

Long story short, I tried to go natural last year. I love the feeling and texture of my "new growth" and I've noticed that with the right products (love Shea Moisture!) it's so soft and pretty! I even had an enthusiastic stylist. HOWEVER. I gave up 6 months in (with about 2-3 inches of new growth) because omg transitioning. It are hard, folks. I DON'T want to cut it off.

It was so funny, I have a presentation next week so I was gonna go to the salon, and normally before anything big I will be like "I need a fresh relaxer!" But this time I just didn't feel like it. It's not the time. It's that I love to do my own hair! I love the feeling of my hands in it and comparing products and just...doing it.

I think I want to try again. I just told myself I would "wait until after my wedding" but why? if I want to straighten my hair for it I can, and I think I will fall in love with my natural hair. But I need help, y'all. So natural black women who transitioned from being relaxed, PLEASE share encouraging stories!

Edited at 2011-10-30 05:01 pm (UTC)
moonlightblack Re: TRANSITIONING STORIES HERE PLZ30th-Oct-2011 05:11 pm (UTC)
Moisturize. Mosturize. MOSTURIZE.
Once you make the big transition from chemical to natural hair, you might find your hair is too short, choppy looking or dry, but you have to find good products to keep your hair looking nice and neat. Better yet make your own! I know I thought I looked SO ugly with my short ass fro, but I realized that it was high-time I confront my true face and appearance without the false straight, long hair and love myself how I was meant to appear. I'm not going to say that it's easy for the first 6 weeks, but it gets better for sure.
When I did the big chop last September, I made a natural creme and spray made from olive oil, shea butter, Vitamin E, butter to keep my hair nice and soft and it worked!

Do you want to wear your hair in an afro or twist it? I find that natural afro's are SO hard to maintain because they get dry really easily once they confront the elements and are exposed to the air. At first, I HATED my afro and would have to frantically spray, use gel and wet my hair quickly in the shower for it to look presentable for work and school, but the more you apply gel, water and your home-made products, the healthier it looks.

Let me see if I can send you some pictures so I can give you an example of how my hair looks with a fro and twists...Don't be afraid of trying again!
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msloserrific 30th-Oct-2011 06:55 pm (UTC)
Have you tried twist-outs to make your curl pattern look more defined?

Yay for Alisha! New Misfits today!!
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fog_dancer 30th-Oct-2011 05:00 pm (UTC)
I admit, I am a hair toucher. But only for really good friends and relatives. A cousin of mine has these incredibly gorgeous red curls and it's just so *fluffy* for a lack of a better word.

I'd never touch a strangers hair, though. That's beyond creepy and overstepping a ton of boundaries.
lone_concertina 30th-Oct-2011 05:04 pm (UTC)
I have a joke with a friend of mine where we always pretend to make a big deal about touching each other's hair in public. I grew up with bright red curly hair and was always petted by old ladies, and she has had a natural 4c poof on top of her head for as long as she's made her own hair decisions, so naturally people touch it constantly. I would deck a motherfucker if they came up and touched her hair while I was with her, though.
latin_lunatic 30th-Oct-2011 05:02 pm (UTC)
Some white women who responded, Martin said, shared their stories of their own hair being touched in countries populated by people of color. They chalked it up to natural curiosity and accused Martin of being too sensitive, she said.
Nope. I am a man and I wouldn't let random people touch my beard or my long hair not only for being a huge invasion of privacy but also a germ issue. Hands are one of the dirtiest places on a human.


(my hair is wavy. 2A-2C depending on how long it's been since I've washed/combed it and humidity)

Edited at 2011-10-30 05:05 pm (UTC)
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hashishinahooka 30th-Oct-2011 05:04 pm (UTC)
I have that exact satin bonnet, color and all, on my head right now.

Anyways, I'm a natural, and I love my hair in its natural state despite the fact that I get a lot of flack for it. I was told recently that my hair makes me look like lesbian, whatever that means.

I've been natural on and off since 2005. I relaxed twice between 2005 and 2008. I haven't touched a relaxer since. I don't even like my hair straight, or the amount of work that goes into it.

I'm scissor happy and not always gentle with my hair, so right now, I'm at about neck length. I chopped my hair to two inches after a stylist butchered my hair. :(

Thanks for the links.
hashishinahooka 30th-Oct-2011 05:07 pm (UTC)
I've never had anyone ask to touch my hair, thank goodness. My friends will sometimes ask if my hair is soft on certain days, and I'll let them touch to see for themselves. They're all Black or Latino though, so never really exoticism going on.
moonlightblack 30th-Oct-2011 05:16 pm (UTC)
I just went back to a pure natural hairstyle instead of using braid extensions and I love it! It's so much better than having a small to medium sized afro because it stay neat for a maximum of 45 minutes and the fly away hair start to act a fool...

I haven't relaxed my hair since March 2010 and never looked back. I was relaxed for my entire freshman year and it was SUCH a hassle. I hated the constant washing, conditioning and straightening. I ended doing a bad job of taking care of my hair and a lot of it dropped off, so now I'm back to square one with my hair length....*sigh*
moonlightblack 30th-Oct-2011 05:40 pm (UTC)


This is what my hair looks like now.
msloserrific 30th-Oct-2011 05:17 pm (UTC)
YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS.

I'm going to the gym but then I'm gonna settle in and get cozy in this post.
bluetooth16 30th-Oct-2011 05:21 pm (UTC)
HAIR LIKE HERMIONE!!!

On a serious note, I am fucking fed up with people who think I have on some type of wig/weave/lacefront on my hair. I'm multiracial, so my hair is a combination of wavy, kinky, and curly. I rarely use relaxer because that shit hurts. I wash my hair, then set with old school metal curlers.

What makes me even more mad about this is that it's never white people who say this to me. It's always other POC. Apparently my hair isn't "black enough" for some people.

Edited at 2011-10-30 05:27 pm (UTC)
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