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Attention Working Mothers, you actually hate yourselves.

5:34 pm - 04/13/2012
Fox News’ Keith Ablow: Working Moms Like Hilary Rosen Despise Themselves

In a new column rife with his usual brand of audacious conjecture, Keith Ablow of Fox News’ Medical A-Team takes aim at Hilary Rosen and all working moms (and arguably all feminists), suggesting they are “anti-gender” and “despise the parts of themselves” drawn to motherhood:

"These “anti-gender” women have it in for anyone who embraces her femininity, maternal instincts and capacity to nurture as their highest priority — postponing or passing up other laudable opportunities to work at, say, a law firm or as a marketing executive. They despise the notion that some women may indeed be drawn — instinctively and happily — toward creating special and loving environments in which to raise their children, while spending all their available time sustaining and enriching those environments and those children.

They despise the parts of themselves that may be drawn to such roles, as well. That’s why women like Hilary Rosen make such outlandish statements, to begin with. They’re essentially talking to themselves — albeit, with the rest of the world forced to listen — trying to reassure themselves that their own choices in life weren’t only equally as good as those of other women, but better. Far, far better. They feel like their choices are better because they have thrown off the shackles of roles that were once “expected” of them, leaving them not only freer than, but superior to, those women who don’t feel enslaved at home, but feel fulfilled at home."

Unsurprisingly, Ablow assumes that gender norms are good and haven’t been used to discriminate against women for almost all of humanity. Perhaps he’d like to roll back all of the freedoms women have fought for over the past century so they can fully embrace their “maternal instincts” with nothing to distract them from what he seems to see as their true calling. Ablow, of course, includes a jab at Rosen for being a lesbian, suggesting she’s only capable of supporting “alternative lifestyles.”

As Carlos Maza points out at Equality Matters, Ablow’s column includes all his usual pop-psychology tropes:

-Violating professional ethics standards by diagnosing a public figure without permission or a formal examination

-Peddling unscientific and sexist stereotypes about how men and women are supposed to behave

-Using any excuse to take an unprovoked potshot at the Obama administration

But all of that aside, Ablow accidentally concedes that the intention of Rosen’s comments was exactly right, suggesting that many of his clients “wouldn’t be going to work for very long if their spouses made millions as investors (as Mitt Romney has done).” If Ann Romney really didn’t go to work, choosing instead to “allow her husband to go out and make the money to support all of them,” why doesn’t Ablow simply agree with Rosen?

Source: http://thinkprogress.org/lgbt/2012/04/13/464194/keith-ablow-hilary-rosen/
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itcamefromjapan 14th-Apr-2012 04:16 am (UTC)
Yeah, my mom worked two jobs for most of my childhood and raised me on her own and still managed to nurture the fuck outta me, so I'm going to have to ask you to take a seat, asshole.
dncingmalkavian 18th-Apr-2012 10:36 pm (UTC)
Same for me, actually, so +1 right here.
farting_nora 14th-Apr-2012 04:23 am (UTC)
Mothers can't win. If you work you are a monster who doesn't love your children as much as you should, and if you stay at home with your children you are a lazy person who doesn't do any actual work and therefore doesn't deserve any respect.
beoweasel 14th-Apr-2012 04:56 am (UTC)
And if you don't have kids at all, you're either pressured to have children, or people assume you're just being selfish.
little_rachael 14th-Apr-2012 04:29 am (UTC)
They despise the parts of themselves that may be drawn to such roles, as well.

And why do you think this is, dipshit? (when it's true, I mean)
effervescent 14th-Apr-2012 04:33 am (UTC)
You know what, the fact that SAHM's are devalued and unappreciated is an issue. But when someone twists things to make it sound like women should be at home, and all working women hate those women who stay at home, and then finishes up with this gem: And that’s letting a man be comfortable being a man, too.

...yeah. I know not to listen to a single word they say.
queenweasley 14th-Apr-2012 05:14 am (UTC)
schexyschteve 14th-Apr-2012 05:04 am (UTC)
I, for one, am grateful that some mothers work (either out of choice or necessity). It means I have a job.
romp 14th-Apr-2012 05:09 am (UTC)
I wish people would stop giving Ablow work.
makeme_moo 14th-Apr-2012 05:11 am (UTC)
Seriously. I was first introduced to him on an episode of Dr Oz (no, I don't know why I was watching Dr Oz), and ugh rage for days.
liret 14th-Apr-2012 05:11 am (UTC)
I don't even understand how pointing out that Ann Romney 'hasn't worked a day in her life' is an insult against stay at home moms. Her youngest kid is 31.

Edited at 2012-04-14 05:12 am (UTC)
evilgmbethy 14th-Apr-2012 06:29 am (UTC)
because it totally devalues all the hard work she did in managing nannies years ago!
daydream11 14th-Apr-2012 05:14 am (UTC)
I'd say that my relationship with my mother is better precisely because she worked outside of the home. We had our own things going on and our own spaces, and that meant that the time we did spend together was enhanced because we had lives to share with each other. She would have been driven absolutely mad at home. She's laid off at the moment and it's not a good look. =\

I'm also struck by how much (white) privilege this man's stance reeks of. Besides the fact that black women have always worked outside of the home, it debases the working black mother even more than the black mother already gets grief. Black women and girls off all classes aren't raised to be stay-at-home mothers. I grew up around black women, and even the upper-middle class black girls I went to school with got the same message the rest of us did: "You better not ever depend on a man to take care of you. Make sure he can, and then make sure you have your own bank account that he can't touch." We're not really given the option of staying home; the ones who do always get the side-eye it seems, far more than white women who stay home do. A black mom who stays home is lazy; a white mom who stays home cares about her kids. And that's a view I've noticed from the black community just as much as the white mainstream. Besides the fact that that's part of the point all across the rainbow - take women out of the workplace, and you take away their economic independence, which means she's at some man's mercy - I feel like it's even more so for black women (and probably other women of color, too).

Screw it. I'm going to bed.
baked_goldfish 14th-Apr-2012 05:23 am (UTC)
You know, yeah it wasn't the choicest phrasing to say that Ann Romney never worked a day in her life. But call me when you see Republican politicians tripping over themselves to denounce Ablow's statement on working moms the way apparently every Democratic politician in existence, living or dead or from the fucking future, appeared to denounce Rosen's statement on SAHMs. Because that would legitimately be news.
erunamiryene 14th-Apr-2012 08:17 am (UTC)
the way apparently every Democratic politician in existence, living or dead or from the fucking future, appeared to denounce Rosen's statement on SAHMs

GOD, THIS. This shit has pissed me off just as much as anyone defending Romney.
evilgmbethy 14th-Apr-2012 06:26 am (UTC)
whatever, I'm sick of the apologizing for Rosen's comments. Compared to most mothers in the US, Ann Romney hasn't worked a day in her life. Compared to most SAHMs she is extremely privileged, and tbh, being able to be a SAHM in the United States at all is a sign of privilege. A lot of families don't have that option. I am really fucking sick of this rich-ass woman acting like some kind of fucking victim. I am not impressed by her achievement in raising sons when she's a multimillionaire and has all the help in the world to do it.

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hinoema 14th-Apr-2012 07:48 am (UTC)
I say we give this guy what he wants. I propose that tomorrow, every woman in the country should stay home where we belong. Of course, the entire economy would collapse, but hey, we'd he 'honoring our gender' or somesuch.
erunamiryene 14th-Apr-2012 08:13 am (UTC)
These “anti-gender” women have it in for anyone who embraces her femininity, maternal instincts and capacity to nurture as their highest priority

That is absolutely what it was. It wasn't that I had to put food on the table, or I was serving my country (which is probably more than Ablow's ever done and FOR GODDAMN SURE more than Ann Romney ever has), or that bills had to be paid. It was because I'm anti gender and hate femininity. I hate femininity so much that I just went in and shaved all my hair off*, cause obvs, along with ignoring my children in favor of "chasing a fantasy of being as successful as a man", I get to flaunt girly shit, too!


*well, I did shave all my hair off, but only because the regrowth was starting to itch when I wore wigs, and I want to take a sharpie and draw Jack's tattoos on my head. XD

Edited at 2012-04-14 08:14 am (UTC)
phoenixblaze 14th-Apr-2012 12:49 pm (UTC)
Lol at this so much.
valkeakuulas 14th-Apr-2012 09:27 am (UTC)
If a woman is working, people question how she can balance her work and family life, and "how can she be away from her children that much???" But when a man is working, it suddenly is no issue. The more a man works the more of a hero he is, sacrificing everything to provide for his family.
homasse 14th-Apr-2012 11:33 am (UTC)
When I want a man's opinion on how I, and other women feel, about motherhood and working, I'll be sure to ask one.

*crickets chirp*
wicked_seraph 14th-Apr-2012 12:09 pm (UTC)
world_dancer 14th-Apr-2012 11:47 am (UTC)
No, but I'll tell you what, I get very pissed off at people who insist I have maternal instincts to embrace. I have none. Get over it, and stop trying to tell me I'm in denial. It's an insult to my intelligence and my awareness of my own body.
dncingmalkavian 18th-Apr-2012 10:46 pm (UTC)
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