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To go along with the gay marriage news...

8:09 pm - 05/09/2012
Don’t Let What Happened to Shane Happen to You (VIDEO)

Thomas Lee Bridegroom left his Indiana home to travel to LA in 2004 hoping to realize his dreams. He quickly gained popularity hosting MTV’s The X Effect in 2007 and starred in a number of commercials. Tom was also lucky enough to find himself in a long term relationship with Shane Bitney Crone, an actor and social media consultant. The couple started a business together in 2006 and also held a joint mortgage, but they never married or got around to writing their living wills. After all, the pair, in their mid-twenties, planned on having a long future together. But cruel fate had other ideas. On May 7, 2011, Tom tragically fell from a four story roof while photographing a model for a project. He subsequently died. Their failure to protect themselves would cost Tom’s partner Shane dearly.

Here is Shane and Tom’s story:

According to this memorial page Tom and Shane’s closest friends did, a month after Tom’s death, hold their own memorial service where Shane was able to participate and talk about his partner Tom and all the memories they made together.

Video summary: When Shane and Tom came out to their families, Shane's was accepting, but Tom's threatened and disowned him. When Tom died, his mother flew in, grabbed his body and his stuff, took off, then the family banned Shane from the funeral Tom's mother made him pay for and threatened him if he showed up. Shane and Tom did not have wills, so he had no legal recourse. He also never found out the specific details of Tom's death because the hospital wouldn't give him details. (Some Googling says that Tom's parents are Martha and Norman Bridegroom.)

I'm sorry I don't have a better source, but I've only seen this on various blogs. This is the most news-like source I've seen so far.

Per sesmo: Better source
roseofjuly 10th-May-2012 06:23 am (UTC)
Jesus Christ, this. Writing a living will will be my summer project, because fuck that.

Although I will add that gay couples are more likely to be subjected to this because of their lack of an option to get married in most states and the added stigma they have on them simply for being a gay couple.
sesmo 10th-May-2012 06:50 am (UTC)
Fully agreed. At least straight couples have the opportunity to marry in every state. But given the readership of ONTD_P I just wanted to throw it out there that everyone SHOULD have paperwork, if they do not have an excellent relationship with their biological family, and do not want their estranged parents to make choices for them.
carmy_w 10th-May-2012 02:34 pm (UTC)
A living will is a good idea, but in my state, all that does is tell people when to pull the plug.
You need a power of attorney to name your partner/spouse as the person who will make decisions for you if you are incapacitated, and a will, to dispose of your property (including your body) as you see fit. This includes specifically cutting people out of your will, or stating that they are to have no discretion in the disposition of your property.
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